MysterionMuffles

You guys do realize he admitted to having a learning disability right? And that the only things he spelled wrong in this post is Stefan's name and a their/there/they're mix up. That's only validating his theory for the lack of compassion towards him. I agree. A break from the forums would be most productive. You don't have to, Mshidden, because who am I tell to you what to do? I just think time away can help refresh your perspective and cool off from all the scrutiny you've been facing. I haven't delved greatly into your thread but I can tell a lot of people are still riled up and are drawn to downvote you at any turn. If you're used to that kind of rejection and judgement, I would ask myself why? Why is this normal to me? Why do I continue challenging people who I know will mostly be against me?

You seem to be attracting a ton of downvotes on a daily basis...what do you gain from unloading criticisms about Stefan and community as a whole? Are you not aware that you invite a ton of opposition to threads that really hold no merit? Wow horrible leading questions, but I'm sorry.

You bring a valid point. Are you familiar with IFS Therapy or the idea of the Mecosystem? Those are sub personalities we've adapted from people in our lives that we internalized in our psyches. It's interesting you said all this because when you are objectively writing about yourself and your life, there are people in your head that represent figments of people in your life who may not benefit when you know the truth about your history. Good call man! I thought your journal entries are meant to be private from the therapist? Doesn't that go against their protocol?

Here's an interesting interview about journalling Steven Summerstone conducted with his partner Courtney.

if only people were that honest

please cancel your subscription to this site. I don't like the idea of having it financially supported by irrationals.

what the hell are you talking about?

Here's a theory I came up with to explain the rampant phenomenon of the keyboard warrior. Particularly the kind you find on Youtube endlessly debating with people in the comments section. My debate with this fellow was pretty short and it didn't get too heated, but he did choose to bow out of it before it did. Hope you enjoy: lol I totally understand. We get so attached to our viewpoints and we just wish people shared it, so in turn we get into that vain belief that we can become keyboard warriors in order to convince online strangers to share our views. Why? I don't know... I think it has a lot to do with how we're brought up. Our parents pretend they know everything when we're young, and it's fine because it would be scary to have a parent who doesn't seem to know anything when we're that young and dependant on them. But as we grow older and form our own identities, we come to accept different beliefs from them and our own opinions about the world. Then sometimes we get into conflicts with them beause of that disparity. Some of us may have never had the courage or strength to have deep enough conversations with our parents, especially ones that can get our views validated by them. They don't even have to agree, but at least acknowledge we have contrary beliefs and opinions to theirs. I think that's where a lot of the Youtube Keyboard Warrior mentality comes from. To think if we can have clever enough arguments then maybe, just maybe we can change somebody else's viewpoint to mirror ours. But it's not cleverness and keyboard kourage we need...it's vulnerability. And you sir, I thank you for vulnerability and humility in choosing to end our "debate" within good reason. Just a theory, take it for what it's worth!

Always remember, I am the superior and 20% cooler Rainbow JAMZ who believes in free will.

How do you handle a sassy two year old? Stop being a sassy parent. There's nothing wrong with us? Ummmm!!! Yeah I dunno I couldn't do the last minute. That was just horrible. Thanks! SMH SMH SMH

Yeah exactly. Also learning to discern between which negative thoughts are worth exploring, or if they're just random paranoias that hold no weight to reality. You totally got it. I can see why filter could mean suppression, but not at all. If it's a recurring negative thought, that's when I think it's worth exploring.

Oh that's awesome Cynicist. Yeah I can integrate that line of thinking with mine. Think like somebody's listening really is about how you negotiate with yourself and how you react to your parts, more specifically your inner critic. If I seemed like I just ignore negative thoughts and I'm contradicting myself, I apologize. But there are some negative thoughts you can easily discard and not face any reprecussions. However, when you think like somebody's listening, how you think in moments of self doubt is indicative of how you treat yourself. To be curious and confront yourself in a compassionate way like you've outlined, is in line with what I mean.

thanks for sharing Justin. You make a very good point. When abusers claim ignorance, whether it's true or not, they make themselves look even more guilty by not at least acknowledging your pain. To the point you know they're just trying to gaslight you because they know it's a difficult burden to bear when you admit wrong and promise to improve. I've done it. I used to hit my sister when I was young and it was not easy to bring it up to her and apologize. It was very painful for me to admit the faults of my actions, but it was a pain I was willing to endure if it meant a clearer and more trustworthy relationship that I have with her now.

As an avid Korn listener in my teens, that is also why I listened to them. They were my loud and repressed anger left unexpressed. The lyrics I most identified with were the ones on the Untouchables album. When I have time, I might do a rundown of which songs were the most connectable to me and which ones I even cried to because I felt so overwhelmed with life and those songs just said what I needed to hear at the time.

I'm talking purely of thoughts that are of self doubt and self deprication. Sometimes even judgement calls of people on the street. I used to look at people and make random quips about them, and it's like, it would suck if they actualy heard what I was saying lol. How it's different from religious thinking is that it's not a filtering in a shaming sense. But just in line with the whole idea that your thoughts shape your experience of the world to some degree. There's a lot of objective reality you can't control of course, but there are also so many things in life that can either give you a positive or negative experience based solely on your perceptions on them. When it comes to introspecting for the sake of self knowledge, thinking like somebody's listening can prevent you from doing this in a self attacking way. A reason why I created this idea is because I caught myself talking to myself out loud one time, around neighbours. This was years before I became comfortable with the idea of audio journalling and not giving a second thought of what people thought of me when I was intentionally thinking out loud. What helps for me in not having to whisper when I have a certain thought to verbalize is this idea of thinking like somebody's listening because literally, someone WAS listening. If you're compassionate with yourself in your inner dialogue and if someone was listening while you had those inner dialogues, you would convey that you are honest insofar about your downfalls, but you're compassionate when it comes to reprogramming your thoughts. Thanks for your understanding, I will check out your links as well. Positive thinking doesn't make everything in life, for sure, but it sure as hell helps with a few things like those trivialities you mentioned. Being stuck in traffic or a slow line at a store etc.

This is a line of thinking that has helped me for the past few years. The rationale behind is that if I keep this in mind, I filter out the negative thoughts that are detremental to my well being, and of course, filter out the dark thoughts that would invite scrutiny. I'm hoping to see what others think of this. Is it beneficial to think this way? Do you need more clarification on what I mean? Or hell, do you think it's complete poppycock and you can tell me why?

Don't forget this maturity in Blink 182 This was such a change from their early goofiness.

Look at the top comments for Falling Away From Me. Ton of abuse excusers. I was the only person pointing it out. There's missing comments because the douchebag in defense of spanking kept deleting my questions about his childhood.

Of course he can, but not when he's single. Maybe if you have a girlfriend and you're good friends with her friends. Even then you'd have to put some distance on the vulnerability and possibly innate flirting to make it work.

That's something I feel guilty about sometimes.

Glad you checked it out and liked it! Bumping for more

Thank you for your honesty and openness, Openeye. I empathize with you fully, I used to take everything word for word as well, but that's when I realized that wasn't the point of philosophy. What I think is okay to do is accept Stefan's philosophical process of thinking, but not the conclusions. Those are up to you and you alone. You shouldn't be too hard on yourself for thinking you blindly follow with whatever sounds the greatest at the time. There's a reason why you did it and I guess you do understand why you do it. But ultimately, external influence or not, at least be accountable and actually proud that it has always been you and only you who has chosen what to do with your life. Give yourself some credit. Whatever you choose to do in terms of this community, I respect that. Obviously you're free to stay or leave, hell even lurk from time to time. I'm sorry for your religious upbringing, but it sounds like you've broken free of it to some degree, especially if you know yourself well enough to make this post. Good luck in whatever follows after you officially leave this place. I hope the value you gained from listening can still provide you with...value lol and is not in vain. Take some time for yourself and developing your own identity, and if you ever feel like it, you're always welcome to check back here.

Personally I think the first 6 seasons were the strongest, but afterwards it was a weird mix between 80% compelling story moving episodes and %20 filler throughout seasons 7-9. Either way still a fun ride! So yeah report back here when you've gotten your daughter's thoughts lol

That's basically what I said.

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