MysterionMuffles

I was on the back of a school bus on my way to a history field trip, along with my grade 12 english teacher, but my elementary school classmates all as adults. When we reached the place, I rushed to the front of the bus before anyone could get up and got off the bus. My teacher, let's call her Ms. Gale (I'll tell you why later), wanted to ask me about why I was late for class again. Apparently my lateness caused the rest of the class to be late and I apologized for having insomnia. I was very open with her in saying that I needed to restock on some marijuana in order to start sleeping on time again. We all stood in the hallway of the history museum and some old guy came out to greet us. Everyone in my class cowered aside, far from me, Ms. Gale, and the historian dude. I got confused so I cowered away ending up in an awkward empty space between my classmates and Ms. Gale and the historian. But she only noticed me stepping away even though there was a class of 30 more people who took significant steps back. She asked what I was doing while laughing and then waved us all over to follow the historian. I went into a staircase to see people practicing dance moves, this part seems out of place...but it was there nonetheless. Actually everything in the middle seemed out of place because it didn't have much to do with history to begin with. I just remember the rest of my class all seated at rows of desks drawing or writing, while I roamed around the room looking at candy in the built in convenience store of the history museum. I finally decided to sit at a desk and that's when everybody got up and left to resume the tour. I vaguely remember seeing a co-worker from a few years ago and mocking the way he spoke to some faceless person, but that faceless person just told me to leave himself and the former co-worker alone. What really gets me about the dream is the end though. We were all back in class and were supposed to write about our experience at the history museum, but I didn't have any blank paper to write on. I asked a dude next to me if he could give me some but he ignored me. His binder was on his desk and I asked "is it okay if I get it myself then?" And still he ignores me. I go through my papers with printed notes on them and try to imagine ways to write on the very small empty spaces then realize it'd be hopeless to try. Near the end of class that's when I snapped and got everybody's attention. I said, "ok you know what? I didn't do any of the work and I'm not going to. Studying history is stupid. I mean it's okay to know what happened before, but only if it helps change the now, which it hasn't. History repeats itself right now in Afghanistan." I referred to my English teacher as Ms. Gale even though that's not her name, rather a name I gave to a character I made for a novel Im writing in my real life. She's loosely based on her, but anyway. I continued to start parroting one of Stef's speeches and said, "to think that murder for prestige can be moral." And I wanted to go on with what else he said in the video called Soldiers, Peace and Freedom, but that's when I woke up. I wonder if anyone has any thoughts on that. I'm too lazy to hand write this and decided to just type it and since I'm typing it and you guys have a knack for helping in deciphering dreams, I guess I could share in the process.

lol Nathan always sweeping in with the short and concise!

what do you mean by psychotic break? did you go break stuff and black out or something?

Roger Meyers Jr. said it best, "if you take away our right to steal ideas, where are they gonna come from?" I mean a car probably seemed like an original idea when it was first invented, but it is just an updated chariot.

I play mathrock on my own and new oldies with my band And yeah it's tough to find artists whose messages are genuine and not corporate manipulation

EDIT: sorry for the wasted topic, I asked a bunch of questions about formatting that I was able to figure out and fix in staying with MS Word.

I got into an argument with my actual friend about this. I whole heartedly accept and appreciate the sentiment of exposing inauthentic nice guys as sexual manipulators, but am I right to say that the woman has the responsibility of looking out for red flags? I think you can spot an inauthentic nice guy based on how many unasked favours he does for his female friend, never expects anything in return (except for sex at a vulnerable time) and basically never challenges her on any intellectual or emotional level. I'm not sure if that logic holds, but please tell me if that makes sense. Apparently she had to turn down a guy friend multiple times, and I commended her for the first time. But wouldn't it be worth examining yourself to see why you attract these kinda guys into your life and continue to enable their act? He's just as responsible for examining why he continues to pursue someone he knows is going to reject him. Just trying to UPB but my friend couldn't understand. All I got "was boo-hoo, I'm hot, it's not my fault they get attracted to me," and the self righteous "but I value him as a friend, I just can't ditch him." Well yeah...sure you can if he keeps advancing on you when you've already told him not to. Also especially if you've chosen to see him all the times you had to reject him. Oh female responsibility. What a way to shake the world's shit up.

I'm just in favour for proper pargraphing...hell even dotted lists can be helpful.

I'd slip off the grid, spending my days shooting at empty cans stacked on a fence--with mah boobies

Wow Kevin excellent point. That's how the women on my FB are phrasing it as: she don't need no man, das all. Guy's are all like "she dumped me because I treated her like a human being," etc. You can guess how misrepresented it has been to them. I'm actually trying to go for equality in that each person has a CHOICE in who they want to be with. The women are claiming that the man demands obligatory sex, in which cases it may happen, but when I argued against it, I just said a plain and simple critique. It's not to shame the female of the comic, but to empower by giving her moral responsibility. The epilogue would be suiting if she questioned herself and her own motives. Did she string him along? But yeah Kevin, good call on pointing out that the guy was just expressing a preference and that's how it's gonna be dealt with? THank YOU, kind bitch, for showing me what our relationship would have been like. Rejection doesn't suck anymore, especially when you know it comes from a woman who lacks self awareness. friend of a friend fortunately. Someone I deleted off my FB many years ago lol. But thanks for the clarification also!

A friend of mine posted this: http://imgur.com/a/RmAjE And then her friend raged at me for simply saying that there should be a philosophical epilogue where The Friendzoner examines why she attracted such a man in the first place. Your thoughts?

It was a great character study of a show. I loved how they had flashbacks to the survivor's lives before they crash landed, it really brought life to the challenges they had to deal with on the island itself. The first 3 seasons were very strong and very intense. I would say it's a well worth watch, but pace yourself. You'll find yourself devouring episode after episode in the first 3 seasons or at least that was my experience. Season 5 was so so, I think they waste a lot of time in it. Season 6 came back strong though, and although many people disliked the way it ended, I think it was very fitting. I know it could've been better, but with a uber high quality show like Lost, it's hard to maintain the awesomeness that it was when it first started. Now that you guys mention the less science and philosophy, even though I wasn't that educated on the stuff when I used to watch it, I think that is what eased me out of my addiction to it lol. It did become less and less sensical and grounded in reality. It did throw me off with all the supernatural crap they infused in it, but in the end, I still found it enjoyable. dsayers: I'd say check out the first 3 episodes (because the pilot and 2nd episode set up the whole series well, and the 3rd I think was the first introduce the land-life parallels in flashbacks with Jack, the doctor). I do remember that he was actually supposed to die the very first episode, but it would make no sense to as he did become the most rational character and a good leader to the group--despite of his personal flaws you'll find out about in the first episode that explores his land life.

Oh dude, if I'm playing a story based game, I let all the game bgm and sfx, and especially dialogue take precedence. I only put on FDR (or sometimes writing podcasts) when I play online games since I'm sick and tired of hearing the same music and sound effects lol.

Good point. I guess I need to relinquish some of my hang ups on the consequential part of explanations. I know I can do it without that over concerned and somewhat angry tone her own parents take with her.

My neice not my daughter God-daughter if anything, for I am the Atheist God Father. Thanks for your replies guys and I can see why it might have been important to tell her why or why she shouldn't do it, but eh she's only two years old. I probably held back on that info because she gets enough of that from her parents. "Oh don't lie on the arm rest like that you might fall, get a big owie and crack your head open." I dunno, Im hoping that was already implicit since she has already experienced the consequence of sliding on surfaces like that. Chris: yeah that's the thing, I'm hoping I can start explaining stuff when she can speak and understand language a bit better. By then I might not be her babysitter anymore but we shall see. Good call on explanations because I wouldn't want her to do as I say just because I'm the proximate caregiver at the time. dsayers: I'm not sure I understand. How can slipping or cutting her feet NOT be a bad thing? As for rugs, we don't have that big of rugs lol.

UPB that and just say "you forgot what it was like to be a kid!"

That tiny piece of advice has worked wonders for me! I can't remember which podcast exactly, but in one of the five original Philosophical Parenting podcasts, Stef talked about how if you express enthusiasm with a child, you can just as easily calmly assert LACK of enthusiasm when a child is "misbehaving" for the lack of a better word. Kids thrive on the enthusiasm and approval of the proximate caregiver, so for that caregiver to disallow an unwanted action, without yelling or any form of aggression, rather withholding enthusiasm, the kid will more likely to stop because they are connected to the caregiver, and feel like they don't have to rebel against what they say. I've used this a few times, one most recently involved these plastic cup coasters I have in my living room. My neice likes to play with them in a variety of ways like pretending they are cookies and eating them, and using them as a steering wheel as she pretends to be a car. Another way she was trying to play with them was using them as....slippers? Yeah she has this weird tendancy to take off her socks and slide her feet along flat objects like playing cards, place mats and in this case the coasters. I was pretty enthusiastic pretending to be another car with my own coaster and hitting the horn whenever we drove past each other. She was having fun, but then she wanted to step on the coasters and slide them across the hard wood floors. She's had a history of slipping and hurting herself when playing like this, she might even crack the plastic underneath her feet and get a cut, and to a lesser importance, scratch the floors. So with all that momentum of laughing happy fun times, I just stopped smiling and told her, "no please don't step on them like that." And right away, she peeled the coasters off her feet and continued playing car. Anyone else had much success with this kind of approach or can offer me feedback on how I did? I would like to think that was the proper way to deal with that, and just really glad I didn't go on to nag her about the consequences I mentioned here.

WOW D&D at the office? I don't believe your story because it seems like any nerd's wet dream to be able to score with one of the few rare girls at work too profound for words Real sorry to hear about your mom btw...I was gonna jump to the whole, LET SOMEONE ELSE TAKE CARE OF HER approach, but it seems like you know what you're doing. If she's willing to be open and honest I would say milk it til you feel satiated. When you will stop is when you'll feel truly connected to her and feel like you can safely say that you do love her. Her virtue, despite of it being caused to a reminder in mortality, has a chance to develop if you keep pressing onward with opening up about your history. It's great that you let her open up, so long as that she allows you the same amount of openness with your history. Yes you can't change it, but the point is for her to see the fault of her actions and how it has affected you. Doing so without shaming her is actually tough...she's gonna be bound to feel the shame and guilt on her own but if you're willing to be this caring for her, I think it'd be a healthy thing for you to acknowledge and accept, and helping her feel validated in that shame after her apologies, to me, would restore some faith in other human beings. Because if someone can make such grave errors, be truly sorry and ashamed of their past actions, and of course promise to improve their line of communication with you--then I think there's some hope in humanity.

Only if they've been conditioned to respond to the stick more. I appreciate the consideration you're trying to have for parents, but I can't help but feel you're just trying to justify a few unsavory parenting practices. I could be wrong, I'm just basing it off the way you came into the chatroom last night. Also, please define discipline

Holy crap...that's just wretched. What you described about your sister's father's wife and the punishments she would inflict on you. I appreciate your openness to talk about it, I'm really sorry for what happened, but I am immensely proud that you came out of it alive. I would expect someone with that experience to be totally cut off and vile, and vengeful towards the world, but I don't sense that from you. This is hard to stomach especially because you endured all that before the age of 10...holy hell! The answer to your "now what?" is all up to you. I don't even know how to begin to give advice. The most I can offer is my sympathy and pride for your choice to at least see your abuse for what it was. Journalling is really the best thing you can do, aside from of course seeking ways to reverse those kinds of ingrained experiences. It seems you've also hit a bit of a jackpot in meeting a man who can introduce you to philosophy and empathy, the most deadliest combination in combatting abuse. I am really happy for that and would like to know more about what it took for you to meet him and open yourself up to him. All I can really say is just that you're on the right path at least! And just keep opening up until it becomes a bit of a story you're tired of retelling. I hope that doesn't sound too new age, self help minimization but I think it has power to unload about your experiences with the genuine emotions you felt within those instances and get them out of your system. That will leave a huge gaping hole in your heart and psyche, but the healing in the form of virtuous actions and virtuous relationships will strengthen you. Especially since it has been so foreign in your life and you just know it's been what you've wanted for so long. Btw, why do you feel inclined to still have a relationship with your mother? Your sister I understand, but your mother ignored and neglected you for most of your life, even when you were in her proximity...maybe that's where the lingering clutch on anger still resides? You're still allowing yourself to be in the company of someone who has disregarded you for the most part. That's not to say it's not worth trying to be open and honest with her, but test it out. If you can at least hold a casual conversation with your mother without inviting any attack, push deeper and see if you can have a conversation about your history and your current feelings. See if she's willing to care before the dreaded option of simply taking a break from her.

Yeah I came up with a similar rebuttal. I dont have to have kids to know they dont like getting spanked or yelled at. Ive been a kid who had to experience that kind of treatment. Ask the defendant if they really liked being spanked and if they can openly say they did then usurge them to have more compassion for themselves.

Thanks for the links guys! They sound like just what I need. I've seen the 4 chord progression for numerous songs, it made me sad lol. Sad that it's that easy to get popular. Guess familiarity is a strong theme in music. aw none of your links work for me ribuck care to share some of the important things talked about in that video and article?

I wanted to engage in some convos but it looks like (at least on my computer) replies to posts disappear after posting them. Either from tech difficulties or people just reporting me as spam...as I have for them!

I'm really sorry to hear that James...it's far too often in this generation still. It seems to lessen over the generations, but with the spread of philosophy I hope it hastens the death of ex post facto justifications. I'm really sad to see that only two people agree with the article and got such few likes. I dunno if it's worth any pursuit, but I think as an anti-child-abuse community, we should raid all of these types of arguments just to defend children's rights. I know it's kind of like e-protesting which is utterly useless...I just feel horribly for the people who say such stupid crap like that. Here's what I posted:

Oh I get it now! Thanks for mentioning how they get uploaded through each medium at different times. I was just getting confused when a new call in show got uploaded on Youtube, only to realize it's one I already had just under a different title.