MysterionMuffles

yeah i used to bullshit people saying "we'll laugh about this months from now" just to obsolve myself of the responsibility of dealing with a problem here and now. Accepting that it's there and there needs to be something done about it.

it's just an empty phrase that masks a lie with a sugar coated promise of nothing sorry to read of your experience. Some irresponsible mother she must have been to say crap like that.

Just woke up from a nap, kinda groggy and cranky. Could not read past the 3rd post.

Ferssitar that first one was the one I was hoping someone else had!

so is my topic done? Is this thread gonna be a personal squabble about who said what and when--and oh no you di-in't!

lmfao yeah the buzzword fallacy...I'd like to take a closer look at your post sometime. For now I'll just let it sit. You sure have given me a lot to think about.

hmm can you provide more detail? Like one kinds of things do they mock you for and what kind of dumb little things do they talk about that leaves you feeling uninterested?

Hey it's been a while since I've donated and would like to make a donation, but it seems now I have to pay in US dollars? Meaning if I donate $20 it will have to equal $22 Canadian. I could've sworn it's been $20-50 flat Canadian each time I have in the past. The $2 extra isn't a problem for me, but I was just wondering why this was happening--if it was just happening for me or if there was a change in accepting donations I didn't know about. I know Stef lives in the Great White North like me, so it makes little to no sense to be charging in US dollars. If it helps a little, I have been buying music off some American sites through Paypal (which is how I donate to FDR also), so I wonder if that had anything to do with it.

Yeah it's harder on a message board. It has to be as real time as it gets like instant messaging voice or text. Otherwise it's pointless. Who are these people to you? Why does it matter that they adapt to your views? You're better off trying that with people in your immediate world.

Thomas shared his experience of being kissed on the mouth and he finds it creepy now. (If I may speak for him that is) Hm what I'm starting to understand here is that the kiss on the lips seems normal for a while but a child entering puberty or any age of sexual development, it stops becoming normal. Like having a child sit on a parent's lap. How long til that becomes unsavoury and no longer normal? I would say around 7-10 kid grow out of feeling comfortable with being on a parent's lap.

I remember that these strangers don't mean a thing to me so it's not in my place to debate with them at an emotional level. I once went into a My Little Pony chatroom and asked if there were taxes in Equestria (the world MLP takes place in) and I sparked a huge debate. It went ugly to say the least and they couldn't understand that taxation was force. Then they tried to mire the debate with free will vs. determinism and "WHAT ABOUT THE ROADS?!" bs until I went from first principles. I tried to explain self ownership and the NAP but by then I think they got exhausted with being proven wrong. They ended up taking a half hour trying to ask me about self ownership and I literally explained it so many ways that I think they were just stumped and wanted to stall for time, until of course I got exhausted and decided to leave. Here's the thing Cosmin: people's online anger has nothing to do with you. It's their own crap to deal with. On Xboxlive I've had a lot of people send me hatemail, even people who have beaten me! And I already know that their rage at my skills or lack thereof has nothing to do with me. They expect me to play or behave a certain way but I don't, and it shakes up their routine or something. Either way, Ive gotten hatemail and a year ago or so, started to psychologize people who do this. 7/10 times I start to see a real human being because I just ask him how their day was. It always turns out that they're really angry at their coworkers, their boss or even friends and family when I take the time to ask them. So how do I deal with online jerks? I become curious. Ask them why they think the way they do. Sometimes I even ask how I can improve my game if I beat someone or if they beat me, and since they expect me to talk shit back to them, but DONT--it totally shakes their shit up and they start to calm down. As for do they get to me? Not so much anymore when I take a breath and remember what I shared with you here.

Yes I can see that may be a common misconception. I have that knee jerk reaction to call the P word when it comes to "intimate with children." However, to an lesser degree, parents think I'm one when I talk to their kids in public when they themselves aren't. There was this little boy in a shopping cart talking to the female cashier and me about his card collection while his parents weren't even paying attention to him. Just ringing up their items mindlessly. So apparently it's okay for this boy to be talking to the cashier girl, because lord knows women are incapable of being pedophiles. Then I address the boy and comment on how many YuGiOh cards he has (or whatever it was) and the parents YANK the boy out of my range. Anyways dude, I think you're starting to take this debate a little too personally. I'm really sorry about your history when it comes to your dad and all--but it seems to me this thread is boiling up some frustration in you. I think it's best if you take a break from it...

Damn that guy for speaking the truth. I almost forgot about that argument. Thanks! Although the family member who said it--I think I'm just gonna disengage from now on. Totally, utterly, worthless.

Let's have at it! !

I dunno Markus, when I talked to you in the chat you seemed very receptive and open to new knowledge and talking at a humble level. Try bringing that onto the boards more.

This entire album always pumps me up for the day. Inspirational prog rock!

In that paraphrased exchange I can already figure that this is a person who is incapable of reason. Not sure if you should try any further since all you get is ad-hominems and personal attacks instead of real arguments. He has a FEW arguments but they're mired by more personal attacks than anything. "I don't care how passionate you are" as if that's a philosophical argument. Totally mind racking.

What is a suitable response to such a common defense from crappy parents? I would imagine, "then raise them right so you wouldn't have to BE criticized," but I think that invites some attack as it has some venom in itself too.

I don't recall any affection being given in any way. Not physically nor a kind word here and there. It's only recently that I've started giving hugs to my cousins, but nothing for the adults as of yet. The only thing I CAN remember was my aunt carrying me and singing me to sleep with a song about a soldier leaving his wife to fight for his country. Propaganda aside, the lyrics and melody brought me to tears. It's one of the first memories I have and I've connected it with how much I feel from a touching work of art, and just how much I want to invoke the same with my own music or literature. Thanks for asking! It's interesting that you brought that up because when I was taking care of my neice still, I did notice that she was a good recepient for my unresolved need for cuddling. I noticed that I used to hug her out of nowhere like when we were playing or when she was sitting on my lap. I listened to her physical feedback though, wherein sometimes she didnt want to be embraced as such. So I've since stopped imposing my cuddles on her and ask if I can get a hug, to which she does choke me with her chubby sausage arms. I know for a fact that when she's wide awake, she does not like affection, but when she's sleepy, she can NOT let go of me if I was the one to cuddle her to sleep. Even after her eyes have fully closed, I would try to get away, but she would wake up for a second and reach her arms up for more sleepy hugs until she's deeply asleep. Part of the reason why I posted this topic was because a cousin of mine kissed her on the mouth just like her parents do, and it always makes me feel odd when I see that. What's worse is how they force her to hug or kiss almost every aunt or uncle in the room goodbye instead of letting her be okay with a general goodbye wave to everybody.

This is an instrumental prog rock album, but I feel like the over tonality and feel of this album invokes self knowledge in me. It's also great for studying music, reflecting music, and for me most importantly: writing music. It has just the right roller coaster of emotions to go through that it keeps you pumping with adrenaline when need be, but also giving you some time and space to relax before the big and heavy parts. Skip over to 3:18 if the opening track is too slow of a build up for you. But basically the rest of the album is full of more exciting build ups to big moments.

Wow thank you for your openness on this Thomas. That does sound creepy. Although creepy is a nonphilosophical term...damn is it creepy! Sorry to hear the deficit of affection in your life, though it seems you've gotten big bursts of it in strange ways... I think your imaginary conversation at the end would be nice. It would teach a kid to know how to be explicit with their boundaries, it would help a lot in deciding just what they really want and need. Though another side of me feels like that kind of conversation can be had with a predator who might try to over step their boundaries and say "well you SHOULD be okay with it." It's kinda tricky. And those pictures Wesley posted still creep me out. Basically my stance is kissing a kid on the lips is analagous to kissing their genitals or buttocks. It's too sensitive of a receptor of sexual pleasure and although lip to cheek is fine, lip to lip again is sharing a physical sensation that only two consenting adults should share in. I am still open to seeing what other people think though, and how they can make a case to how it's okay to kiss a child or sibling on the lips BEYOND cultural crap. When I saw my friend kiss his sister on the lips, it was a quickpeck where they didn't press their lips together too hard, but I felt like it was a weird tease. Life "if you weren't my sister, I'd be going all out," kind of thing. Akin to Diaz's comment which I find disturbing on so many levels lol. Marty McFly anybody?!

I don't remember having been kissed on the lips as a child let alone on the cheek.

LOL that can't be mother and son if he's also copping some side boob there

That's an awesome question!

Cool, thanks for the links. What I gather is that it's a fence sitting kind of situation. Interesting. Thank you for giving me much to mull over. I'm still a bachelor and all, but just got back into the game of dating. I needed to know about this some more because I was considering moving in with a woman if I found any I would like to date consistently and build a relationship with. However, I DO value my solitude and privacy so I don't think it'd be too bad living separate from someone until marriage. I'll still give it some thought.