MysterionMuffles

if you follow in villagewisdom's wisdom that child will develop a deeper bond with you and thus have a massive increase in confidence carrying themselves around in school. They will exude an energy that will ward off would be bullies, and if they do get bullied, they'll know they have a trusted ally to empathize.

it's allowed, this isn't a video game forum lol. Can you elaborate a bit more on this topic? At first I thought you were talking about tree banches, that kind of switch, do so you mean the transition period between new patterns and behaviours?

LOL I love the DK series. The music for the N64 game is alright, the height of the DKC soundtrack's awesomeness can be found in DKC2: Diddy's Kongquest. When David Wise still worked for Rare, he composed some of the most brilliant tracks that pushed the 16 bit instrumentation's limits.

But being dishonest involves falseness, falseness of self in order to avoid truth. Dishonesty means there is something to hide of your true self, hence the falseness. I think you may be looking at as if people have either or tendancies as opposed to accepting that some traits may not even relate to someone. Is there not a place of neutrality where one is neither decisive or indecisive, but may contain many of the other traits from either camp?

So being decisive, envious of others, and lacking the capacity to bond with others could be traits of somebody's true self? Being true to one's self could also mean having difficulty to giving or receiving love, and dishonest?

how do you feel about Joel's list? I think that one is very comprehensive.

yes but it takes a lot of question dodging, interrupting, and argument avoidance on the caller's part before Stefan begins to express frustration. And even then it's not even aggressive. in your defition what does humility look like and based on Stefan's behaviour, what about it seemed arrogant to you?

oh so you mean like it feels like just a bunch of generalities that can be applied to anybody? Horoscopes have these specific personality traits that are designed to look specific to certain people but aren't really?

Yeah it's a contrastor to your current happiness kind of thing, right? From time to time I will listen to Korn to appreciate their musicianship and the growth I've been through since I stopped listening to them everyday.

too far bro lol

Why does it remind you of reading your horoscope for your sign?

WHOA thanks for the comprehensive list. I'm gonna fill it out sometime!

I don't think you understood what I meant. You can still talk the truth while being rude. Not putting Stefan in this category, but rudeness (as you perceive Stefan's new personality) is not mutually exclusive from truth. Can you tell me which specific recent call-in shows that made you feel like Stefan was being rude? You're right about one thing, we haven't asked you much questions on your view for you to expand on them. Sorry for speaking for everyone in this thread, I'm willing to give this guy a chance to speak his mind. However, making wild assertions like rudeness invalidating truth and laughing it off might diminish your chance of being taken seriously. You're also right about how, if I read your last sentence correctly, it takes small steps for people to accept truth. From my perspective, though, the callers who are given the small steps, but don't take it, require the big step of truth so it becomes more obvious to them. It's good to have a huge dose of truth if small doses don't do it, but should never of course start with the big step unless someone asks for it. Which is what most callers do, they ask for Stefan to be blunt, up front, and honest.

Thanks for the links I'll look more into it, VolT! I also found this Ted Talk she did: It's inspiring to see the personal motives that go behind inventions. The gadgets themselves are really cool, but to find out the backstory as to why it was conceived really increases the invention's importance. As a Filipino child of 1st generation immigrants, I can empathize and sympathize with Ann's friend's story. My mom has told me about being a kid in Philipines and her meals only consisted of rice, sugar, and milk. Occassionally there's a banana in there and once a week they could meat. This all changed of course when all her siblings started working and contributing to the family in order to put better food on the table and improve their living conditions. So taking a dire situation or just some lack in the world, and then coming up with ways to solve or improve it, the drive to create does some wonderful things. Like she says, "be the source of the world's solutions," in any way possible. Which is what I love about all the members on here who have found a way to implement philosophy in their daily lives to affect their immediate worlds: the child abuse interventions, the peaceful parenting practitioners, free market entrepeneurs, creative artists--you're all wonderful people! Now I'm inspired to check out the Steve Jobs movie with Ashton Kutcher. Has anyone seen it and is it worth the watch? I mean, I was entertained by The Social Network, I think it had some great writing, but Jesse Eisenberg's depiction of Mark Zuckerburg was very inaccurate, as he is to do making every character role of his to be neurotic. So in turn it's also a sensationalized version of what actually heppened when it came to the making of Facebook with a pretentiously emphasis on Mark's nerdiness. With that in mind, I'm wondering if Ashton Kutcher's depiction of Steve Jobs is respectable and not a horribly parody of who he was. Devil's Advocate thoughts:

Good stuff, J-William. It's quite rare to change people's minds offline, so the chances are even more stumped when you try to do it ONline. Should we try and compile a list for tell tale signs that point to people who might have a chance at change vs those who you'll know will be stubborn as muels?

How did he record this with a straight face?!

What if it's just something you grow out of like sleeping in the same bed as them? That may seem weird as an adult, right? This topic and everyone's thoughts sure has opened up my perspective. DasCarly, I think you're right to know when to the draw the line where it starts to feel uncomfortable. Like a hug can be just as normal until there's excessive carressing near sexual or even on non sexual areas of the body. I wonder if this is really all an argument for different degrees of certain actions.

"Sometimes being too kind can actually prevent someone from doing what they need to do." - Fluttershy In this case face reality and connect with their emotions, as many callers have a tendancy to avoid. But I understand why of course. It's painful in the moment, but much more beneficial in the long run, and a lot of us need that extra push to undo our illusions. And yes I did quote a character from a children's cartoon show

Lol this is one of the reasons why I play. To stay awake during podcasts, mainly FDR ones. I know if I just lay down and listen, I will doze off because I need visual and mechanical stimuli to keep me awake. I used to play games on my iTouch (it's really a hand me down iPhone without the phone working) but it's gotten too laggy to run more than the podcast player at the same time. To the authoritarian inside of me's lament, I renewed my Xboxlive subscription for one more month yesterday. I know online gaming for me is a very easy distraction that can keep me up at night, and something that can easily distract me from creative projects and productive activities--but the next 30 days I'm gonna simutaneously give my inner child free reign to play when he feels like it, and also challenge my self as a whole to know when enough is enough for one day. First day wasn't so bad. I still got to edit my book, help set up for a party, and socialize. It's obviously not as bad as it seems, but may feel like it. If I can over any help in this thread, I would say, don't try to find a habit to replace it with, rather just find another habit to develop for its own sake. Imagine the habit center of your brain as a cup of stale water, that water being the video game habit. As you pour new water into it, little by little, it will displace the stale water inside, eventually pushing it out by making the cup over flow. Some people work like they can easily empty the cup and refill it, while others, and I think most of us, require the addition of new habits to develop that naturally replace the old ones. Think about. As you grew up to the age you're at now, there have been so many choices you've made that weren't conscious, but just the prospect of growing up naturally called for you to develop new habits and drop old ones. For me, that was playing with action figures. I didn't stop playing with them until I was 11. Maybe a little bit for 12 and 13, but for the most part I stopped playing with them at 11 for a few reasons: Video games started to become more sophisticated I moved to a new house and started going to a new school, thus making more friends than I ever had in my life up until that point Homework load got bigger and I actually decided to start caring (until high school started) I briefly took an interest in drawing fantasy characters and writing comic books featuring them I got a computer and discovered the wonderful world of the internet and instant messaging While most of these aren't particularly super healthy habits--save for making new friends and going out with them more--they did become fresh new experiences I could embrace that eventually replaced my action figure playing. So another strategy I would suggest is let yourself keep playing if that part of you can't stop thinking about it, but at the same time find new habits not for the prospect of replacing the online gaming, rather develop them for their own sake and see if they naturally replace online gaming. Hope this helps. Tell me what you think, guys!

interesting andrew, what kind of prayer do use without God? Eric, that's interesting since I think what people refer to "God" at least in prayer is really just internal dialogue with the conscience. Has anyone watched What the Bleep Do We Know? I used to believe in that like a replacement to prayer when I was still Agnostic, but man...to some degree nowadays I still feel like there are some desires we do somehow manifest if we believe in it enough. Is it just coincidence when that happens?

Hmm that's an interesting thought...I need to ponder on that and see if that applies to any other situation why a parent might abuse a child. And that must have been a horrible sight to see. Jesus Christ Monkey Balls.

Yeah this is a good article. Surprised that CNN would have this view, but great nonetheless. Though I think the writer can use a lil more philosophy and less state to derive the desire for change. Changing laws I guess reflects the general level of morality in a population, it sure worked wonders for Sweden.

Thanks for the quote, been using it since you posted. I got a new article up about Progress Journals, it is yet another tool to fight writer's block and any other kind of creative block.

LOL I don't sweat but man do my hands go get warm when I face off someone really challenging online. I'm sure they can continue to make improvements to this. It's at a very infant stage right now, but I'm hoping it can reach the point of being usable beyond flashlights. Perhaps I don't understand this fully, but the side you touch stays cold because the heat gets transferred to the other in order to generate the electricity? I thought it just stays at a neutral temperature as opposed to getting colder.

Yeah it is bullshit beause--and this will go for both genders but lets go with the norm--when a man know he likes a woman he will do almost everything to be there for her. Everything except be honest about his interest in her. Not until other men start coming into play and then he'll assert his interest a little too late. The ones that feel entitled to sexual reciprocity are the nice guys who are just as low and creepy as the explicitly manipulative abuse boyfriend. There are "Alphas" who assert dominance in a more obvious way than the "Beta." The beta is all about indirect communication of his interest in a woman and gets mad when she just so happen to not NOTICE his interest. I think the friendzone is bullshit because a real friend would be okay with getting rejected by a friend who doesn't share the same romantic feelings. More often than not, the rejection is implicit because these guys show interest in too many implicit ways. I could be wrong about this, but if a man would just ask a woman out and be honest about his feelings toward her, I think this kind of man never gets into the friendzone because they don't take it personally. Whether a woman wants him or not does not reflect on his value, rather it's a reflection of her value. This doesn't mean she's less than the guy if she just doesn't like him, rather they just have a clash of values that don't line up enough to start a relationship.