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nevermind, I can't stand this movie anymore. I got 15 minutes in and I couldn't handle how shallow and manipulative Nikki is. So sleazy too. He's basically a homeless, jobless, good looking man who looks for women to bang so he can stay in their luxurious Hollywood houses. I know the movie picks up later where there's a backlash to his actions and that there's a girl who doesn't fall for his shit, who of course eventually does, but this movie now hurts my soul to watch lol. You're all free to check it out still and give me your thoughts, but it is nowhere near the character development and enjoyment as Don Jon. I don't think Nikki learns anything or improves as a person at the end of the movie, rather just gets punished for being the shallow douche that he is.

I see. Sounds really good in theory, guess we all gotta try it out in practice though to verify. Not sure if a good woman would be turned off by those questions, maybe just less likely than a typical woman. If anything, if she's open and honest enough to note that being asked those questions feel weird, hey you got an RTR'er Could you give me an example of asking those questions in your style?

This is such an awesome thread. Robert Rak and Kevin Beal, thanks for the comprehensive lists. I wouldn't call you over judgemental, it's good to have standards as you've listed. Hm...but taking it from Robert's approach, these are the kinds of questions I think you can get answers to in a more implicit, creative kind of way. People are always revealing a lot about themselves in how they present themselves, and I think it just takes some extra listening to guage their level of pride and humility. Correct me if I'm wrong--and it may seem like emotional management--but wouldn't be asked those questions make the other person feel like an interview? I don't know, if a woman asked you these questions this directly, you'd feel comfortable right? In an interview your greatest weakness seems like such a trick question because how can you detail a weakness that is both humble and not detremental to getting the job? When it comes to dating, does that question become more or less challenging to answer? I think this one is the most important though because it'll reveal the level of functionality the family had and if their perspective is as objective as possible. I was on a date with a woman who said she was never hit, but was yelled at and threatened to be hit with a slipper. When she said that it was enough to scare her into compliance and she had no anger or remorse for her inner child, I had to end the date in a few minutes afterward. Ah yes, if you can RTR safely with them and they become curious, compassionate, and/or accepting of your honesty that would be a huge indicator of virtue and sanity. If practicing RTR should be saved for important relationships, I think utilizing the methodology on a date could be extremely helpful if you plan on turning this person into a significant other. But as always, the most important RTR is with yourself, so I'd say yeah check in with yourself first and I'm sure your instinct can tell you whether it's even worth it at all with a specific date. Yeah that's a great question. I've asked it of women and I love most of their answers. I feel pity for one woman I spoke to who was doing some finance homework when what she really wanted to do was something in music, during a music night at the coffee shop where we met. Obviously, though, music is a tough market and if she wants the safe route that's fine too. Not everybody is meant to strive for their inherent desire over whatever their parents want them to study instead, so I'm not gonna judge too hard if what they're currently studying or working at is incongruent with what they really want to be doing. I'm doing what I love now but not getting paid for it much just yet, so I will only have a standard for women that I've fulfilled in myself first. That's a great point Magnum, and I meant to upvote you, sorry for that misclick. Somebody put his rep back up! I feel like in the end, most of it really rests on this fundamental principle. If they have a good relationship with themselves, everything else should be logically sound because it means they're honest with themselves and their beliefs derive from reason and logic as opposed to trauma avoidance like the conspiracy stuff. Totally agree with you. Women who believe more in conspiracies than actualy reforming the human moral state in the present are avoiding considering just that!

That's not trivial, please don't minimize. That kind of insulting social shaming is not the action of someone I would call a friend. I would ask him why he wanted to say it in that instance. Maybe he's projecting and just had something going on inside himself that he was trying to avoid by passing the anxiety on to you? Also, the whole "don't take it personally," comment is actually meant to make you self attack. Like oh you're so sensitive how could you react to something so innocuous. I had recently unfriended a woman who kept telling me not to take things personally, when she was really just projecting how she took my curiousity and expression of feelings personally as judgemental attacks on her character. I would RTR with her and she would be offended by my simple stating of feelings without judgement on her part. It's one thing to know that you shouldn't take things personally because people's offenses against you have more to do with them than it does with you. But to inflict the conclusion that you're taking things personally is an insult to your vulnerability and makes you feel like you don't deserve to be hurt and not have that feeling of hurt explored.

That's a damn good question. My summer school teacher was also against State marriage so when we asked him why he did it, he said it was to symbolize the promise to unite with his wife for the rest of his life. To show everybody in both of their social circles that he wants to celebrate the day he achieved certainty in being with her, and I think social approval to some degree can really keep you on your heels. To have spent all that time and money having his friends and family, and her friends and family witness them express their vows and make their verbal contracts to each other, it binds them to an implicit clause of integrity to stay faithful to each other. Great question! Though I'd imagine that in a Free Society it would be less costly, especially when it comes to ring buying so the money you could've spent on expensive diamonds could better be used for an even more grandiose reception. If I had my way, they would use diamonds for human heat powered electricity.

physical exercise. Particularly yoga where holding poses forces you to focus on your balance and your body.

Yes because social shaming as your first time here is a way to command respect from people. I don't even have to read the rest of your post to know that you're either terribly misguided or are just out to troll us.

nice! welcome to the boards Cioran, feel free to share what other faucets of knowledge you unlock from continuing to listen!

I would suggest you download the audio version then. The communication methodology is unabrasive and can only be seen as such from people who take everything personally. It's an invitation to either curiousity or attack, and once you see which one people opt out for when you simply express your feelings in the moment, you'll get closure on that relationship.

this has got to be the best video yet because it's funny, well acted, and the arguments are much easier to take in. If anyone still can't get it after this or at least consider changes, then I don't know what will. Til then, keep innovating, interwebz!

Yeah your mom sounds like a loser who's just trying to break your will so she doesn't feel as much of a loser than she already does. I'm so sorry that just her existence and her expression itself is enough to set you off, I can't even imagine how much it has irritated you all your life. As far as I know, since I don't know what she's like only getting your view on it, I wouldn't say it was wrong for you to yell at her. Yeah sure, I bet you can bring up these concerns in a calmer fashion and I would suggest that you do in a future date when you've calmed down, but what came out of you that day was the inner child who has been feeling left unheard and ignored for all these years. People only yell at each other because civil tone feels like it doesn't get the point across. Can you express in more detail how you approached the criticisms about her before she said you had no empathy? It's a delicate thing and it's sad that we have to manage the emotions of our parents, but there is some care you do need to take when delivering criticism to people who think that they've done perfectly well for you for all their life. You're not wrong to feel the way you do, but the way it gets expressed might make or break your soul, in that the verbal abuse you inflict on your mom might make you only sink deeper to her level. I don't wanna be all that Zen guru on you, and yes your anger is warranted, the important thing is how it gets expressed. You can still let her know you're angry with her without having to get abrasive. Have you read Real-Time Relationships?

Muh patriarchy is unattracted to Hermoine now!

I was working on a novel for THREE years (very on and off) and shared it with people who I thought were my friends, but they never took the time to read beyond the first paragraph in all the time I allotted them to have a copy. I'm now 9 months in a novel I'm more passionate about, I am actually facing opposition by abusive parents for writing what I'm writing. It's a sign I'm writing something that pushes the social norm like Judy Blume once did, but it's all grandiosity until I really push to finish and publish this book. So yeah I can relate to people not taking a look at your creations when you want and respect their opinion. There's this one woman whose dinner parties I would go to so I can support her vegan cooking line and they were great meals and social situations sure, but she couldn't even take the time to read a single chapter of my book or watch 8 minute videos I've recorded. Long story short, over horrible philosophical debates that didn't go anywhere because she was always just projecting her toxic, I unfriended her.

interesting...I haven't heard or read your other music but those lyrics sound like you've hit a high point in growth. I would be curious about what it would mean to transcend beyond that point in your ability to open up in your lyrics. btw you have an awesome voice! thanks for sharing it actually brought tears to my eyes especially with the link about cloak and dagger for some reason...reminds me of how guarded I am and how much it costs and benefits me at times.

Yeah I've quit drinking, at least excessively. I'll maybe have a beer or two every few months, but never go overboard. I used to drink heavily from when I was 16-25. What happened at 25 was that I was getting heart palpitations since I already have a heart condition and I could feel my kidneys straining to process the alcohol. One night I refused to eat anything or drink water when I had drank a couple of Captain Morgan shots ontop of all the many beers I already had before hand. "Beer before liqour only makes you sicker." The next morning I thought I was going to die because upon opening my eyes, the moment I tried to get up I felt my kidneys pinch, my vision go black and I passed out. I really thought it was the end but I woke up a few hours later just really hungry and in intense pain. I don't think it should ever come to that for you, but I would suggest you stop before you do feel physical effects. They fucking SUCK! The lack of energy is a bit managable for a while, but be thankful that's where you're at for now. Five beers a night may not seem like much but that's gonna add up. What made jamming, writing, and reading less enjoyable besides drinking? PS sorry about your father's presence being much of non-presence...that's really scary like living with a haunting ghost of every indication that this habit isn't worth it.

lol I was being sarcastic skirtilator. There are so many women--nay--people out there who are really attractive until they open their mouths. Case in point, this woman.

just clicked it and read it

Yes! I love this line alone. It's something I've learned recently. There are days where confronting my demons hurts more than I think I can handle, but then I remember what it's like to have them in control of me. It's just not what I want anymore. That hurts so much more than the growing pains. That pain is there to guide you. Embrace it. Don't get too hard on yourself for not living your values. Just kno that that sickening terror is a stark contrastor to what it's like to stay on the other side of self-knowledge. You're only gonna get more authentic with the humility you've displayed so far, but don't expect it to happen all at once.

No I'm not saying video games are traumatic, but apparently for Mr. Rolfe it was. I know about the whole history of the AVGN conception but thanks for the video. That one was great. And you mirror my thoughts about whether or not his parental relationship is healthy because they seem okay with his self expression, but the violent B-movies he used to make suggest otherwise. All I'm trying to say with this thread is that his involvement in this project has made him a happier person in comparison to who he was when he first started, but that has come to the cost of lessening the anger that fueled his earlier work that made it so appealing. Even when he does get "angry" you can tell it's pure acting, whereas in earlier videos, I could sense a lot of it was genuine. And much like him I have decreased the frustration I feel with video games through self knowledge of where my early negative experiences of video games came from.

The Angry Video Game Nerd series is something that entertained me for a decade and felt like I could relate to. I myself have had my frustrations with video games because they are something that are supposed to be fun, but sometimes are too challenging, either intentionally from the programmer, or just my own lack of skill at the time. Such is the case with many of the games this guy has reviewed. I've been an on and off viewer, but in the early years when the anger was raw and more genuine than it is now, it was one of the highest watched Youtube series when Youtube first came out in 2006. The Angry Video Game Nerd is a satirical game reviewing series, wherin a disgruntled adult nerd picks out games that haunted his childhood and replays them to give angry reviews about. The irony is that he drinks beers while reliving his childhood trauma by choice, while also portraying it in a way that's meant to be funny. Something in recent years has stricken about me. When I still used to read Youtube comments, people would often complain that the anger in his more higher quality recorded reviews, the newer ones that is, don't have as much anger as they used to, therefore it's no longer funny. And how many times can he make piss and poop jokes to make fun of video games before it gets stale, right? He always has great analogies like, "making an accurate shot in this game is as hard as picking fly shit out of pepper with boxing gloves!" James Rolfe has done a great thing with connecting with his viewers, showing that they are not alone with their own horrific video game experiences. Yes, a lot of games we played as kids were designed to be too hard for our brains to comprehend, and it's usually episodes like the Silver Surfer review where people relate to how frustrating it can be when games programmed for kids are done in a way to stress out their sense of challenge and reward. Especially since getting good at video games doesn't earn you anything tangible unless you enter into tournaments and win money for winning at fighters, but that's a topic for another day perhaps. Anyways, when people complain that he's just not angry anymore, I sympathize with him. He has a wife and child now, after making 100+ movies in his life he has finally embarked on the journey of making a feature length film based on the AVGN character--and all the anger he has felt and expressed with the camera on must've done so much to relieve his childhood trauma with video games--that at some point he's gotta become too happy to go on with the character. An episode that I felt like it had nothing to do with the character, and so much himself, was this episode on Ninja Gaiden. The 2nd game in the series was my favourite game as a child because I just loved ninjas, but always got frustrated with how increasingly difficult it got further along. As an adult I mastered it because I have since developed better reaction time and memory of the level mapping, but as a kid, I think I only got so far as into the 3rd or 4th level out of the 5 or 6 the entire game comprises of. These games were short if you could beat them through and through, but usually there was enough difficulty to give you time and space to keep trying and approaching it at different angles. ANYWAYS getting off topic and I'm sorry if this isn't an eloquently written post, but the point of this thread is this: Obviously therapy and possibly looking at his FOO issues if he has any would be more ideal, but I feel like his journey into writing and producing this series for a decade has helped James reconnect with child self and thus made him a happier person. And that I feel strongly about the people who criticize the newer episodes for not being as rage filled as the earlier ones, that they demand his anger for their amusement like I used to. Underneath my amusement, I always knew at some level this was a bit like therapy for him. Going back to the Ninja Gaiden episode, he plays the first original game and not the 2nd one I was accustomed to, but I feel like this episode had character development in it. He becomes determined to get better at the game and conquer it, and when there's a clip of him concentrating and becoming happy about his progress, I felt connected to his plight because one of the things that have given me sheer joy is mastering a video game knowing that I didn't let myself get frustrated by it. I just focussed, had fun like I was supposed to, and took the challenge in for what its worth.

Awesome good job!

Yes, hearing yourself back on an audio journal, you can hear the pure emotion in your voice. It becomes easy to tell what you're really passionate about and not really passionate about. Listening back also gives you the chance to get bored at your own thoughts and see which ones you really do put thought and consideration into voicing. That helps weeding out the excess and finding the flowers in the field of weeds. I feel like hand writing cuts that excess down a bit. It's more concise because it's impossible for your hand to keep up with your mind, so that's why I think once in a while it's good to REALLY slow down and hand write word for word what you really want to think about, as I may the case in my blog post.

LOL yeah that voice is as hellacious as Christian Bale's Batman voice.

It wasn't direct nastiness. It was that something was off about him and it wasn't fully revealed until Yeravos became vulnerable and honest with him.

To end gender inequality, you start assigning moral responsibility to women. Where in her speech does she mention the research about how 90% women in the US still spank their kids? Where in her speech does she mention that women initiate most divorces and suck men's resources dry through this destructive system? Gender equality does not = men and boys conforming to feminist ideology. She has a good point on men not having to be aggressive and abrasive, and that men should be free to be senstive and caring. OKAY good! But why doesn't she look into the research that may cause unstable aggressive men? http://www.buzzfeed.com/rossalynwarren/emma-watson-says-that-the-view-feminism-is-man-hating-has-to?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpgp#rtn6ot