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Hi MMX, thanks for replying. I cant say she does. Not in mannerism, nor in physicality.

Hi Jamz, thanks for replying. I understand the question part. What confuses me is the end scene " the woman, by the way she looked angry, and Stefan telling me to turn around and walk away" As if at first I was invited then rejected.

Hi, thank you for replying. Sounds about right, as far as the real life question goes. I have been listening for a bit over a year, and donating about half way through.

I was in a dark alley it was night time, the scene switched to me picking up Stefan in a car and me driving himhome. While I was driving him I wanted to ask him a question but it felt like I couldn't come up with one that was important enough to ask. The scene briefly switched to Stefan being as tall as 10 story building, then back to me driving Stefan home in a car. This time he was in the back seat which was now laid out folded and him laying on it with his feet up, and with headphones on. Now the scene switched to me being in the elevator going up to his floor with him, we walked out of the elevator,I noticed there was a woman standing further away with the door open to his apartment. Stefan turned to me and said "Ok, I now need you to turn around and walk away"The dream ended. I am not sure what this means. Im not sure what information to give, what relates. Well thank you in advance

Speaking about my personal experiences only. I have never given forgiveness to those who hurt me, and never asked for me to forgive them . What happened instead, is I allowed myself to feel anger at them, without self attack. After confronting them about them causing me pain, and them ignoring it all together, I took at information to heart and removed them from my life completely. I can safely say this: I no longer feel anger at them, they are no longer around me, and I no longer care about them. Im free and this past no longer bothers me.

If you feel like your needs are not being met, perhaps you might want to bring this up with your therapist, and see what the answer is? I think you can take most of what you had here to the therapist. I have a feeling that after confronting your therapist with your needs not being met, you will have your answer. Good luck, hope you get your answer.

I am not sure where your worry comes from. Im an Ancap as well, but my personality is INFP. There are a lot of things that make one an Ancap. Inner health is the most important one I can think of, by that I mean, being psychologically healthy, largely gets rid of pure emotional responses, and reverts a person back to the rational thinking. Rational thinking is where one can take everything into account, and actually consider it, instead of dismissing arguments out of pure emotion (fear).

Thank you for pointing out the study.

Im sorry but epileptic seizures (brain damage and complete misfiring causing all sorts of physical effects including complete muscular seizure) have nothing to do with fight or flight (which is our natural response to life threatening danger, to fight the danger or flee from it) One comes from brain damage/improperly formed brain matter. Another comes from over stimulated response due to child abuse, thus making some stay on constant alert. Unless you mean seizures coming from physical abuse, being a child physically abused to the point of brain damage? Then I suppose its possible. Otherwise I am not sure I see the connection. Flight or fight VS Seizures are completely different in the origins, if we would try to find correlation.

Hi, this might be an odd question for some, but very important for me. All this time of trying to look within , there one question that bothers me. I cant be alone. All the times I have been alone, living alone without anyone, it was excruciatingly painful. It starts as pain then becomes deep depression, and later switches between the two states. The eventuality of it, is I struggle so much that I desperately start looking for someone, anyone to be with. I know where this comes, but knowing doesn't seem to help me deal with this. I seemed to have never learned how to be alone. So question is, how can I learn to live alone. Materials (books on the topic would be much appreciated) As I can imagine there is no such thing as one paragraph answer to this. Thank you in advance.

Lets start from the end of your topic. Believe only in the sene? Not at all, scinetists explore all sorts of things, the very first thing that pops into my mind, is black holes, they are not seen at all. Ar there things that we have yet to discover? I would think every self respecting scientist, would answer in resounding yes. So, Im not sure where your position on sciense being so close minded, comes from. Now to the point of God. One would only have to take a look at history and see how many previously unknown things were considered to be proof of God, well rigth up until the point when those things were explained scientifically. So my question to you would be this. To which "n'th" degree are you willing to hide god in the yet to be known or discovered parts of nature? Not to mention what does a very defined being has to do with any of it? God as defined, is a being that is all knowing and all capable (a contradicition already mind you). Why does something unknown to you = god instead of a great topic to study? Conciousness, I agree an absiolutely fascinating subject to study and to ponder, yet to you for some reason it = a being that must have created us all. I mean my question is, to be more precise is. Why does conciousness = god to you and not say loghtning? I mean after all , centuries ago lightning was proof of god for people then.

It seems rather funny to me when people say that (you are not a parent so you have no idea). It is true that some of us have no experience in being a parent, but I would argue that all of us have a great deal of experience in being a child...

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Hi, this might be wrong place forums wise. If so I apologize in advance. The question I have is this: what are careers that involve working with human mind. I am well aware of psychology and psychiatry etc.. Problem in these fields is schooling, the enormous length of it. I would have loved to work in those previously mentioned fields, but considering my current age and situation, i simply can not go through all the schooling required. So here I am stuck, trying to figure it out, have been stuck on this question for some time now. Knowing how intelligent and creative this community is, I thought why not... So what are the careers involved with working with human mind where I dont have to spend upwards of 14 years of my life on schooling. Thank you in advance

Have you tried entereing "negotiating mode" ? If you enter into that mode (taht is if the argument hasnt gotten out of hand yet), then try staying in the mode for as long as you can, if they respond by calming down and start talking to you with negotitaions in return, then you will know that the person you are talking to isnt a bully. A negotiation mode is aknowledgment of other peoples feelings and frustrations. See if that helps

No, no lucidity at all, would have been fun, but I felt like I was guided by someone.

The frames were in the background, just to separate the lights, I dont remember the shapes all the much, in the dream I was in awe looking around.

Hi, had a dream that stuck with me, hopping to get some help maybe. Before going to sleep that night I was wondering how subconscious mind might look. Went to bed and the dream started as voice telling me –“here is your subconscious mind” As soon as the voice said that, a giant panoramic view in front of me opened up, seemed endless, full of bright colors all over. Each star like bright color separated with what looked like to be black frames, there seemed to be millions of such star colors in frames. The strangest thing is, I woke up went to the restroom, came back went to sleep, and the dream started over again, as if someone pressed rewind and pressed play again. Thank you in advance.

In person, and full honesty, without rationalization or excuses tends to do the job.

Im never big on "get over it" thing. Here are a few things you might want to take into consideration. 1) The fact that some of these "voices" no longer seem as if they are someone else any more, meaning at some point in your life weather you want it or not, they becasme a part of you. 2)You are in a community where people have suffered inormous harm, from that point I would be very catious in thinking that want you have experienced is of the same or similar magnitude, or if what you have experienced have left the same level of trauma on you. Not all people cope or deal in the same way or manner, you want want to look up a pshychology term "Invulnurables" 3) Its nothing new in what you are saying, at some point we all have dones that, never daalt with trauma, but instead brushed the thoughts off. I hope for you it will be a winning battle, for most, if not dealt with, it becomes a losing battle as sure as I am sitting here...

Love the video (sarcasm) -"Men, we know we have softness in us"- yes we do, but lots of us have been taught that this softness is a weakness, hm what do women call soft men again? Oh yeah thats right (mamas boy, mhm) -"Men take of this mask" -- Not really sure what is it he means here, I mean I personally do know (thanks to self education/exploration and therapy) but to the rest of the public it is nothing but a poetic statemnet -"Men lets stop violence" --Wow I mean just wow, really that easy? Nike commerical? Just do it? I take it all we have to do is wish it away? I guess libraries full of Psychotherapy books were witten for nothing, I guess millions of therapists have their jobs for no reason, after all we can just stop!? Hm, just wow And finally the gender garbage, again with this? We as men were brought up to believe that our feelings mean jack shit, that we as men are not suppose to feel, the all familiar -"dont act like a girl" the very first time a "boy" shows volnurable emotion. We, men, who were brought up with fucking guns as toys, becasue you know, it is us men who are expendable we men get sent to war, to die. We men have gender specific classes. We MEN who are not suppose to let our emotions to be seen, yet we deeply feel, keeping all of our emotions in, afraid to be judged for those very emotions, eventually all emotions turn into pain, then into anger WE MEN? I just feel like saying "fuck you" to this moron, from the bottom of my heart. He can take this poem and shove it where the sun dont shine. I hope he goes away, just the same way all other fads have gone, so the real people, who know whats up, can continue doing their work.

Hi Benjamin. It might be helpful to understand that being intimidating is a concept, meaning that there are a lot of things behind it. What I have just said in previous sentence is precisely the reason why you are confused and here trying to figure it out. It might be very helpful for you to approach your boss, sit down with him and say this -"I need your help Mr. Boss, can you please tell me what you meant by that, becasue I dont want to be intimidating nor do I mean to, but Im not sure which actions made it seem that way" ---Just as an add on, listen to what he /she says, dont try arguing about waht they say (not saying you would, just saying in case). Listen to what they tell you, see if you have a better context to it, instead of a summery/concept (intimidating). If you need help with what they have told you, we will try to help you with it further. Gather as many specifics as you, who knows, you might not need help with it after all.

Hi, I sympathise with your feelings fully, I do understand, I have the same thoughts. As usual I will only speak of my experiences, and hope that it might ring a bit of truth, or give you something to look to. So in summary. 1) Self discovery, for me it is a very important step, through self discovery and looking back at my childhood and how I was as an adult, in short, I found a need for therapy 2) Therapy- self therapy combined with therapist (a coach), allows me to fully experience my feelings and understand myself that much more 3) As of right now, Im on a journey where for the first time in my life, I asked myself what would make me happy, I do not mean in the current moment as in, I really want a cookie, I mean in the sence of what would make me happy in life. 4) Very important point though, as hard as it might be, but you will not get to the number 3 without going thrrough 1 and 2, 1 and 2 will make it all very clear for you. I wish you strength, and hope you know that there are many who really understand you. You are not alone.

Hi stephen, I have a question. How do you reach the deep exiled parts? I mean parts that are so exiled that all ther is left is a critic, and critic himslef is very hard to reach. I mean he just there doing his job but nver wants to talk or come out. It just seems that all there is, is a critic and nothing behind it. Or am I thinking wrong about it?