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Just be yourself Don't worry about trying to be anything other than genuine about yourself because you want your partner to love you for who you are. Trying to control the way your potential partner perceives you is manipulative and may create conflict later. The best thing you can do is be completely honest with yourself about what you want and focus on finding that. If you come across a person you are truly drawn toward don't hesitate to be literally honest about what it is about them you think sets them apart and makes you curious to know more about them. Search from a place of freedom.

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Hello FDR community! I would like to know your thoughts about the ethics and emotional necessity of caring for ones parents in old age and through sickness. I've always felt it was a persons duty to care for their parents. I've also felt that being with our parents through that terrifying experience gives us essential knowledge and perspective about life and death. I know that the ethics around this topic are relative and so I'll share a bit about my current relationship to this common human experience in order to create more opportunity for the responses to this topic to help me understand the root of my interest in this subject. My parents neglected and abused me to the extant that I have endured a great deal of trauma. They are now having health issues from living a life of overconsumption of toxic substances. They both deny their illness. My Father has been telling me that some of his organs are injured for the past 2 years. The first thing was hepatitis C, he contracted before I was born. He has a history of heroine abuse so he may have contracted while living in London in his early 20's. He denies that possibility but does not deny using heroine. Though he was aware of the virus before I was born he took medication to get rid of the virus at the age of 55 because he thought it was making him fatigued. He decided to take a newer experimental drug so that he wouldn't have to pay as much for the prescription. One of the drugs caused his haemoglobin to drop and he went to the doctor reporting pain in his left arm and his chest. He was sent to hospital and after some weeks found that the results of the testing he had done showed that he has clogged arteries. He also discovered that 30% of his liver is not functioning while being tested for eligibility to take the experimental drug. He denies any of this has to do with a lifetime of chronic drinking and smoking. He did quit smoking 10 years ago and drinks less now. .. When he discovered he had clogged arteries he was in denial and attributed the results to his physical reaction to the severe drop in haemoglobin. It was suggested that he go for surgery but refused. I spoke to him yesterday and he has decided that he will in fact go for the surgery for a number of reasons including 'everyday when I go to the gym, after about 8 minutes on the treadmill I start to feel a pain in my left arm' and that the doctor has classified him as high risk. ... He takes pride in the fact that he is still going to the gym. .. He has asked me to go back to my hometown (the bad part of hell) to take care of him. There is no where else I could be but there while he goes through this. I have a relatively strong loyalty to my parents. I tell myself to be grateful that I have the chance to see him again. But this isn't going to be triggering emotions associated with mortality alone. There is also the feeling that I've been neglected and traumatized by this person and now I must go and watch him suffer the consequences of indulging in the things that were more important to him than my well being(smoking, drinking, an unjustified and irrational moral authority, etc). I must watch him suffer while feeling the panic and pain associated with watching a loved one suffer. And there is also the pain of the cause being self inflicted And the pain of the absolute terrorized destruction of my potential to have a peaceful life as a result of his masochism And the fear of the only person in the world I think is closest to loving me unconditionally being gone- The fear of being alone. Then- there is the fear of interacting with him, putting up with the non reality, untruth, disassociation, and sometimes still, though I am almost 30, agression and possibly physical violence. There is the fear that I will become so upset in this situation that I'll break. I've just come into relative emotional and material stability after almost 3 years of chronic depression, possibly longer. I'm living in a city far away and have made arrangements to take prerequisite courses in order to prepare for furthering my education should it happen I don't find a suitable father figure to have a family with. I'll have to leave everything here (which isn't that great but is heaven compared to my hometown) in order to care for my father. This should not make me feel this kind of discomfort. I feel like I should be entirely grateful to be able to take care of him. There is a part of me that is spared injury because I feel more secure taking care of my dad than leaving him without anyone around who has an intrinsic value in his well being. It would drive me insane if I couldn't be there for some reason. But I'm more terrified of the kind of insanity that being in an abusive environment while enduring great loss could cause me to retreat into. Since our discussion yesterday I've been in a completely disassociated state and I've been experiencing psychosomatic physical pain in a number of ways that are incredibly distracting. I suppose my question is, If family is the most important thing and that is why I must care for my father(aside from love) And his lack of care for me has created a threat to my ability to further our family by having the emotional, psychological, and material stability required to have my own children And caring for him may further that threat by breaking down the self worth I've been diligently building based on truth and reason Then is it not the best thing for our family for me to protect myself from further injury? I'm concerned that my feeling of obligation comes from a place of cowardice rather than Reason. Some advice I've received is 'don't let the past get in the way' 'you'll regret it if you don't go' 'you owe it to him' And I'm not sure why I'm having such a hard time accepting those claims. I understand them but the reality is that the result of my going to my hometown and being close to my family is always conflict. Conflicts where when I ask myself if I have or ever would treat my parents the way they treat me I am shocked at the disparity between the level of respect we have for each other. I understand that therapy will help, I've been moving in that direction but at this point I'll be going to to take care of my father without a doubt in my mind so I'll likely wait until I arrive to find one. I'm hoping that seeing a therapist will allow me to have the time I desire with my dad and help me to avoid any conflict. I find it almost impossible to believe that taking care of a loved one could be the wrong thing to do. Looking forward to your thoughts and I hope this thread is of some use to all of you!

Well said. I enjoyed the poetry in your post. I think I'll aspire to be a Batman. At the very least if I were living in segregation among superhumans my drive to compete would always be operating at full capacity allowing me to access the complete potential of successfully mastering the ability to pursue my interests. Also, Gattaca looks really cool! Thank you for the recommendation

If the reason you feel that your past is a source of regret is that you are not content with your present state then it's possible that the reason you feel regret is because you're seeking a solution to your present dissatisfaction. Regretting the past may not be the most effective method of acquiring what is essential for your satisfaction with the present. If you can find the reasons you feel disable you from creating your ideal present state then you can work through the ideologies you use to ease the negative feelings associated with achieving success until you find a reason to feel empowered to aspire to meet the standards you have for contentment. When you are content with the present you will find the reasons for regretting the past are absent. This is easier said than done. In many ways the process of building confidence is essential to the human experience along with the fact that ideas always require less of us than the act of translating them into waking life.

This morning I an idea that I thought you'd all have an interesting perspective on. It was inspired by misreading the title of an article. Imagine a world where there are people who are genetically modified in respect to having specific genetic qualities selected through an artificial process. In this world there are regular people like all of us and then there are these superior people who are more efficient in every respect from intelligence to good looks and health. How would that make you feel about your own identity? Would you accept your inferiority or would you resent it because the advantage these genetically modified people have over you is a product of artificiality? If these people, through genetic modification naturally had better odds of selecting their desired partner and having success in general would you feel that your strong but unmodified genetic expression (the qualities that compose your organism) was being dominated in a way that severely threatened your ability to thrive? If these modified super humans found regular humans unattractive because of incomparable qualities and naturally the superior humans became segregated from the regular organic humans would the superior humans not have a more prosperous society while we continued to wrestle with the randomness of our own predisposed potential? Would regular humans not feel resentful toward the 'perfect' humans? Would you feel differently if their superiority was due to some kind of external technological fusion like a micro chip that would affect gene expression? A kind of technology that in other words is something that can be removed and that requires human labour post birth to implement. Looking forward to your thoughts! <3

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The only thing I've discovered that comes close is Teal Swan. She is great at effectively influencing ones understanding of self knowledge toward being in line with reality. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xRsQ4CJEAYo I listen to her when the bomb in my brain has gone off and I can't focus on the themes of the content that are commonly the subject of fdr episodes. Teal is primarily concerned with self knowledge where as Stefan talks about a range of subjects from parenting to politics. The topics commonly found on fdr contain insight into self knowledge but they require ones mind to focus on a number of issues rather than making self knowledge the primary focus. I enjoy the range of subject matter found on FDR because it inspires me to expand my goals and to continue improving the standards of the expectations I have for myself. I'd recommend watching The FDR Bomb in the Brain series if you feel that you need to focus on self knowledge. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gbiq2-ukfhM There is so much new content coming through FDR that sometimes is easy to forget about earlier content. Stefan has covered a complete range of knowledge about the human condition and each time I review the discourses I identify new perspectives. Teal Swan and Stefan Molyneux concisely express ideas that are true but they have a different method of presentation. Reading about Socrates is also an enjoyable way of studying self knowledge. You can get ancient philosophical texts free on iBooks. Phaedrus and Timaeus are two interesting selections.

In my humble opinion the issue isn't about Stefan but about his claims. Ask her if she would be willing to listen to an episode of her choosing while both of you take notes about how the ideas presented make you feel. Have a discussion about the fundamental beliefs that either of you hold about the claims she finds disturbing. If your values are fundamentally opposed then you'll have identified a real issue and if not I'm sure she will realize that Stefan is not an obstruction of her well being.

I've heard truth has a power lies cannot possess. That when in distress the truth is something you can count on. It isn't what you feel. It is What is real. Really, its true. The truth allows a person to realize they are not alone in their mind. Inside you'll find that truth doesn't pertain to a thing but to its potential, what remains is essential. The truth doesn't need a name It isn't what is known but is what one comes to know. It is alive Continuing to grow It is worth fighting for?, What are YOU dying for?. The truth is something one may confide, without the truth humanity will cease to survive. A perfect balance. All that is required, is that the world is admired, in all its beauty, in this moment The truth is inspired. I am not what I can say I've done and I am not what you might think I am what I am At any given moment And In that I become distinct Take a look around the world, you will find this little girl, at night she may be sleeping sound, sinking deeper beneath the ground, conceding in what she'd once lost and found the truth she found in everything. -Ninja

The violent left is a term that describes two categories of character. There are violent people and there are people who identify with the left. My interpretation of the political implication exhibited in this video is that though these people use the current conflicts in American politics as part of their vicious humiliation in the torture of the victim they in fact have very little interest in politics. The sadistic ritual they were participating in was an environment they desired to be in rather than any other environment that was available to them. Most people here will agree that they would rather be in any aspect of their own life than torturing someone for even a fraction of a moment. When I ask myself why I think these people would have rather been torturing someone than doing anything else with their time the first thing that comes to mind is that the other activities and environments that were available to them were less desirable. The fact that torturing a person in an abandoned house gave these people more of a sense of liberty than living peacefully in their lives is where the real cause of the violence stems from. A combination of factors from authoritative parenting that mirrors the absolutely murderous and corrupt government institution that dictates the appropriation of our society and the numerous affects that result create these terrifying social mutations. These are individuals operating from non-reality and their fundamental beliefs are without rational reason. Their principals are based in ideology that has not been questioned because our society operates based on these principals. Our government pays soldiers with the money they steal from us in taxes to torture people in more atrocious ways than these young adults did in the video. Violence is associated with power rather than horror in our society. It takes effort and time to break out of that conditioning. There are few who are parented in reality and even fewer who can break through the matrix of ideologies that constitute the definition of reality that the government dictates. If the torturers in the video felt a sense of liberty and stability in their lives I don't think they would have desired to engage in this kind of degenerative brutality. They are operating in a state of complete desperation and irrationality. I must say that this state is ideal for the (LEFT)government as it renders a person completely disabled and vulnerable to manipulation. It is when we are broken that we surrender. YES, there is racism but all of this focus on racism is a distraction from the real issue. I think we are focusing on racism because it seems allot easier to remedy than the issue of a society that participates in the initiation of coercion against individuals to the affect that the unborn are being robbed and people are born into tax slavery rather than enriching and individually empowering environments. These people have committed a horrendous crime and must suffer adequate consequences. The way to prevent things of this nature from happening again is certainly NOT TO CONTINUE THE RACE WAR NARRATIVE but to continue individually creating prosperity and opportunity for our society to become more enriching and less desensitized to horror. People need to be inspired rather than threatened in order to desire to do something. We can't behave for violent people, we can only create the incentive for people to choose peace over violence as an effective way of communication.

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I think I understand where you're coming from. Discussions are usually about ideas. The emotions associated are relative to the affect the idea has on ones life. That's why feminism is generally more of a challenging subject to discuss for women v.s men's rights. Important things are emotionally triggering. If I see someone on fb post an article about the patriarchy degenerating women's health with a caption that reads something like 'when are we going to send men to mars and take back our right to mother earth' I'm going to use the comment utility to express my thoughts. I wouldn't silence myself because I am afraid of emotionally triggering the poster, in fact, if they become emotional it would give me hope that they have some intrinsic value in finding the truth. I am more afraid of violence toward men based on gender than someone on fb calling me a troll for taking the time to present an argument. I wouldn't only reach the poster, I'd reach everyone who read the thread. I can't expect to know if they will appeal to reason or correct me if I'm wrong but sometimes just knowing that there is information out there that is opposed to ones current ideology is enough shit for a seed to grow in

Yes. That's the idea of the message board. You just reviewed the text on this thread because you desired to find something engaging. What you read was engaging enough that you joined the discussion. If the discussion happened in real time it would have been over and obsolete by the time you were able to log on. After some time has passed if you return and review the discussion you will continue to expand on your ideas simply from having something to contrast your immediate beliefs about the subject of discussion. In fact, your own opinions can serve to contrast your present state of perception about any given subject. That is one of the great tools acquired with the practice of keeping a journal.

I'd say avoid censoring the truth. If you trigger her to the point of agression then you may need to get a new therapist but you will have assisted her in identifying the truth. Seems like your concern for her is more friendly than professional. Friends endure each other out of love, that's the difference.

Yes. I'd love to call in to the show! I've spent a bit of time reflecting on the difference between oral and written methods of sharing knowledge. I've also spend a great deal of time having txt discussions through online platforms including Facebook that I feel have a greater positive impact on the understanding both parties have of any given subject opposed to what would result not having addressed the idea because it isn't possible to meet in person. What inspired me to create this thread was that I was surprised at Stefans comment made at the time signature listed in the title of this thread. I listened to the comment a few times over and decided that his intended tone was more serious than sarcastic.

Are you saying you believe having a discussion on Facebook inhibits the ability to effectively communicate an argument? I'd like to understand what objective of communication is failed by communicating through written words or through social media platforms.

Why should one not use Facebook or other platforms other than in an essentially secret place? In my opinion using these platforms allow people to review discussions between people and reflect on the content. Hash tags and other tools are helpful in finding relative topics. Stefan posts links on Facebook that are discussions about fundamental matters encapsulated in time. The ability to review and reflect on discussions is an essential aspect of the effectiveness of FDR as a knowledge resource.

I think that a person can be 'great with kids' in the sense that they may have learned how to Win the attention of children and be willing to engage them in play and also violate the NOP when dealing with children/people in other circumstances. There are many cases of people being incredibly charming with children publicly and then being entirely the opposite in private. If one were going to use children to bait the crazy out of someone who is essentially a stranger I think it would take enough observation time that you could likely just as well use another method that doesn't risk exposing children to potentially dangerous people. The kind of person who may be abusive but doesn't appear to be so is more dangerous than a person who is blatantly not an appropriate friend/partner

I appreciate that about this community. Thank you