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Hi GlenWillson, Why do you think anyone should read it? What is it's unique feature that makes it stand out from any other 'truths'? Kind regards, Barnsley

I felt you deserved a bit longer response due to how I experienced our interaction, 'tis will be a long one.. So you are alive and not a bot/denying your reality. Although it isn't easy to do, in my humble opinion this is the best part of life. Treating oneself and others with respect and allowing them to act out of their free choice. When I first did this in my relationships I experienced things I had never expected to. Seeing life and the my place in it became so much more simpler, necessary realisations were coming, one after another. While feelings are astonishingly good indicators, packed with symbols and deep and powerful information, they represent also a potential of great force. If you aren't careful, they can overwhelm you when you should be productive or a bit more objective. Please give my deep thanks to Rahel for being there for you and a big thank you hug to yourself for attending therapy, sharing with your support group! I certainly think you deserve it! What I'm trying to say here is (having a great deal of experience in defoo-ing, re-discovering my self, duties-responsabilities/needs to myself) is that while this whole thing is a great importance and probably has a hefty chunk of your attention... You will need time and energy/resources to process it adequately. Sort of when [1] Neo goes to see the Oracle and she tells him "you are here to understand the decision you made/not to make it" - she's highlighting continuity, the next possible section of the path. Consider allocating the right amount of energy in helping your progress, just as in this matter as in 'not getting caught up too much'. [1] - (I'm likening Neo as you now, the Oracle as your 1 aspect of your inner self now and the decision that led you up to this point in life as a result of the past decision of the round table counsel where all your selves/meco system partook choosing.) I believe it can be helpful if I shared what came after I had made a similar decision in my life. Your experience may differ and the usual caveats... As I had not learnt what it meant to be catering to my own needs (how could I, I came from a background with missing examples. My peers didn't want to, rather wanted to tell me my experience, steer me towards not being 'difficult'.) At first, having defooed life seemed less complicated but deep inside I had many doubts. Nevertheless, I thought of it as a 'passing storm', a 'hard period' in life that had to be survived, one day looking back at it with passing interest. Little did I know that by not being supportive in the process of understanding and 'being there for myself when I needed' it would bite me in the ass later, big time. Furthermore the consequences, when they did show up, were grown AND in an area I had not even suspected they would... It hit me hard. (Ever since then, I have a deep rooted indifference when someone says: "Ignorance is bliss!" No it's not, it's disaster in the making! ) So finally, after a considerable amount of time I decided to go back(reviewing my past) and this time take a different approach. It can be summed up as: I'm curious, patient and have philosophy on my side to understand if not entirely at least to make progress. Only understand, no decisions or avoidance. I quickly realised that I was lacking the framework and sometimes things I uncovered would have tentacles reaching into previously unsuspected areas. Keeping a general diary and regular short bursts of meditation, supplemented with discussions amongst my support group would lead me towards 0. Gandalf and Frodo speaking in the mines of Moria (read it/watch it if you can, you'll know why I consider it above all else) 1. Nathaniel Branden - sentence competition I and II (while also reinforced other beneficial systems improving my industriousness, perfectly in line with UPB when reflecting and what you produce in the process 'matures like a good wine over time'.) a. prof. Jordan B. Peterson - big 5 personality assessment (epiphanies of course but on top of them... rrreally useful indicators to better align, position my approach in respect to who I'm) Will do the past authoring next in the near future too. 2. Raised awareness in the importance of life's framework (pre-requisites to anything, really) ROUTINES : a. GTD (get things done) system, so far I haven't found anything simpler/works like a charm and immediately delivering results, continously stacking positive consequences. b. paying more attention to sleeping, eating, working schedules while also introducing planned BREAKS c. Mike Cernovich - Gorilla mindset, stories from his podcasts, interviews where he shows integrity too.. (Thanks man! I appreciate the energy and conviction! Very smart, brave guy!) makes a dazzlingly important point of PAYING ATTENTION TO THE INNER TALK and provides great tools. These were my 'two cents', I'll be looking forward to seeing you here whenever you have anything to say. Keep up with the good work! Barnsley

Hi Jsbrads, A. Turing test, observer's perception human - might be just a really good AI, right? B. What other test would you recommend? Barnsley P.S.: Interstellar - robot, Tars "... plenty of slaves for my robot colony! [queue light - on]" Hilarious yet eerie, isn't it?!

Greetings, Yet another example of how the free market is elbowing it's way to bring more value to our lives, having said that it is certainly making large groups of people GLOBALLY look at it with weary eyes. 1. The demise/replacement of customer service agents Oh, by the by... It's starting to show in the creative sector too, ever more prominently. 2. Who are these 'people'? Fascinating... Barnsley

Hi folks, Here's a link to the Current Surface Mass Budget of the Greenland Ice Sheet from the Danish Meteorological Institute (D.M.I.) Barnsley

Hi Jot, 1. Positive thinking is being solution oriented, openness to possibilities serving improvement. 2. Affirmations are confirmations, usually in a verbal form. Often part of daily, social interactions being used without any reasoning or emotional charge... empty words. (can be +/- or a mix, even neutral) I abandoned the use of conscious affirmations some years ago due to their rather more harmful side effects, especially on the long-term. - Have you heard of affirmations being referred to as 'Hallmark cards'? - What do you think, why propaganda has to be repeated rigorously and if it's any different from affirmations? (especially if it's a 'positive' one) - Can you be positive while stating how you aren't doing/won't do bad things? Barnsley

You're welcome, I love learning from high integrity - wisdom seekers. Maaan, that sounds like a 'caffeined up, squirrel-crazy amount' of directions you're moving in... I wonder if you have the time to distill, absorb and discard. (maybe you do, I'm comparing myself here) Regarding your lengthy message, I'm still trying to but can't quite put my finger on something that I thought I had picked up on, so hope you don't mind a few questions. Why do you think it's necessary to do so? (Perhaps it's me, but it reminds me of some blokes when I was younger telling me 'Ask a girl out, probably she'll decline. Ask a hundred and you'll get to pick.') This example particularly never happened to me but I wonder if you'd have decided to approach and then picked her up, had you known the red flags associated with such 'scalp-collecting' honey-traps. I get the sexual attraction part but since I have philosophy it's just not a turn on anymore once I see a breathtaking beauty. It's more like looking at a Rolex watch with a possible 20$ price tag... You never know, it could be fake... Here's the question: Do you feel the maximum attraction towards a person you are about to ask out before really knowing who she is? Now, that's an interesting way to put it. Would you say that there are sides and fighting, use of force on both sides? Or perhaps you were speaking allegorically about cruelty and loss as consequences? (Or I'm blowing it up and seeing 'Zee-germans' everywhere? :-} ) Were you generalising here fairly? I mean, how much and what is the utility of this perspective to you in order to reach happiness? Could this be why no matter the high turnover, quality isn't reached? Would you say that people who treat/see dating as sport can be invested in the 'connection' aspect, they can simply relax and just be themselves? (No trick question, I'm genuinely curious as to what you have to say about it.) Do you follow the same scenario all the time with each unique individual? When people speak (myself included) of their fears, many times I recall the phrase 'you don't bump into an open door' but 'you will be looking for your keys if you think it's locked'. Makes sense, still I don't know whether it's true. The question is if you are curious to find out more without reservations? As a true explorer, like you mentioned earlier on (I'm paraphrasing) 'no archetypical projections'. Take your time if you want to with the answering. It's a lot I know. All the very best till next time, Barnsley

Hi River, What makes you(or would make you) admant as to you won't reproduce the same issues around 'choosing' that had resulted in you arriving to the current stage in your life? How would you be able to distinguish between having internalised the meaning of your past decisions compared to acting radically differently due to the incentive of 'wanting a change'? Barnsley

Hi Ofd, I'm not sure why you'd ask if there's data out. (internet-kung fu) I won't be able to answer your question but curious if/when anyone does. Barnsley

Hi Amos, Please accept my sympathy, I have read all that you wrote and must say: You should be proud of yourself amongst many other things to demonstrate maturity and treating your needs/feelings as valid and rightful parts. You're definitely working on assertiveness. It seems to me (amateur opinion) that you have outgrown your parents and from what you'd shared I'm not getting an overabundance of wanting to understand you better from your parents. I feel the lack of authentic curiosity from their part. Sorry, man. I do know how that might feel. A few more thoughts. Keep treating your emotions and needs as valid, 'Yes, of course I embrace all my parts. I'm a masterwork in the making, most valuable to me.' . Even anger. Hurting others is another thing. I mean, manipulative people will try to make you self-regulate by not allowing you the emotions that otherwise serve as an immune system, inoculation against 'users'. I.e.: To a statement - "I'm angry with you!" the answer shouldn't be "Oh, I'm sorry. Now, here..don't be, it's not such a big deal... bla-bla excuses..." The other thing is pertaining to the letter. Has it occurred to you that you don't have to explain yourself? You're not obliged to detail and give reasons. You are free to be yourself and establish your boundaries now. Heck, I don't see why you should say so much if it took them soo much effort to cater to your needs when you expressed doubts... Have you thought about to just take a holiday from the relationship? I.e.: 'I need some time to think, after which I'll be in contact.' (change of email, numbers, profiles = peace of mind, until you want, if you want) Friends don't come with certificates, there's no contract signing. You don't choose your friends. They choose you for who you are. A baby elephant is sometimes tied to a stick in captivity so it doesn't wonder off. Strangely, the same adult elephant if also secured with the same weak rope while it could easily snap it... for some reason it still thinks that would be impossible and never tries to. All the best Amos! Barnsley

Hi, Thums up on Wuzzumus's, Somewhere's recommendations, will check robert1986's Marcus A. - Meditations.. Very good topic, should be pinned perhaps due to it's utility. My two cents on the question (Well done on the therapy btw. as it's taking you closer to your own centre, one by one dissolving the problems you mentioned.) How about replacing motivation with 'incentives' as humans respond to those. I haven't met anyone in my life who doesn't. Getting to know your desires and more importantly the 'whys' takes you to a place where you rather engage in a more rational conversation with your inner self/selves (meco system) and simply work through all that life brings, consistently nourishing your self-esteem. Willpower is essential as we do need to make an effort to progress towards our goals. Things that are easy/practised we do effortlessly, however breaking bad habits is always challenging. In order to develop willpower and constructive routines I work on my industriousness, consistency, essential foundations. 1. establish Eat-, sleep-, work/leisure- cycles and stick to them 2. meditation on the day objectively helps you to keep track (10-20mins daily) 3. make sure your inner chat towards yourself is like how a rrrreally-really virtuous good friend would support, console, cheer up, demonstrate patience, remind you of your goals and priorities. 4. Whenever you have an epiphany, realisation.. write it down, record it. You'd be surprised how much you can already give yourself if you just paid more attention and re-read it later. 5. Consider books, stories of real/imaginary people who regardless of the odds sustained their focus on the task and kept their sense of humour. One such sci-fi book is The Martian by Andy Weir 6. Don't fantasise, day-dream in wonderland but DO use your imagination, creative thinking for mapping and back-engineering your desires. Where do you want to be? Why? What would you find there that you love? What smells, sounds, wind... etc would you experience? Who would be there? How would you get there? What could you do with the things you currently have in your surroundings? ... etc. 7. Don't minimise or exaggerate and feel your feelings. M. Cernovich has several great pointers on how to extract and use the charge of anger productively. Avoid and steer clear of energy sucking individuals, loop-like activities. My assumption is that once you are centered/foundations solid, you will have so much drive(knowledge of 'whys') that you will feel fired up, determined continuously. Barnsley

|clarity, reality, marriage| fdr podcast 3885 - at around minute 175 "Feelings won't sustain the relationship. [...]If feelings sustained the relationship, everyone would stay married. Because everyone is pretty much happy on their..." 'tis true! Thanks for verbalising it Stefan.

Ofd, hi there! Don't mean to troll, but to my knowledge no slave lived that long. Any chance you could ask a question rather narrower on the time frame and perhaps location / empire - kingdom - area specific? Have you seen Stefan's (and Michael's) fascinating and eerily thought-provoking presentation on 'The Fall of Rome'? Barnsley

Hi Robert 1986, 1. Pro-activity is essential, obviously. (while a nice girl is also looking for you she's in a slightly different ball-park having to do with "men propose, women dispose" phenomena.) a. actions speak louder than words b. trying to find pretty flowers is a lot easier on a meadow than in the desert. If 'seeds of virtue tend to wither away in your surroundings it could be still that you are trying to plant them in the wrong part of the oasis'. c. How can you know that you would recognise such an individual if you were in the vicinity? Are you good enough of an observer? d. Would you say that you have complete ownership over your history? I mean, you understand why you did / do things? (I love Jordan B. Peterson's story of 'the man with a huge Ruby', watch it if you can!) 2. Once something becomes scarce, finding it takes much more effort. However there are many ways you can multiply your efficiency, some require elemental shift in your thinking (that is if you had little success meeting with 'nice' girls so far, most likely it's the way you think). a. assertiveness, happiness, success makes you more visible b. becoming a beacon of virtues, integrity repeals the 'users' because they get revealed, while draws like minded people closer due to compatibility. 3. In many ways, it's so much easier to go about 'cracking the code of finding the right person' as there's the plethora of knowledge all the time, every time at your fingertips(Worldwide Internet). The trick (imho IS) to sort, evaluate and implement that knowledge. a. Stefan M. spoke a lot about the influence our peers/role models have on us and vice versa. Have you asked yourself if those peers/close relationships are demonstrably successful in the topic you are seeking their advice on? If not, you might be actually sabotaging yourself. 4. I recently heard again in a podcast of Stefan M. "emotions don't sustain relationships, otherwise everyone would stay married. Everyone is happy on their wedding day, honeymoon but..." Likewise, plans and intentions without a consecutive step-by-step follow up won't result in progress, the things you want. Still, I am guessing that the way to go is first and foremost 'see' where you are heading now and where you came from before you would move onto somewhere else. Otherwise you'll end up in circles and demonstrate yet again another existence of a 'generational photocopier' that Stefan M. likes to mention. Jordan B. Peterson's Past authoring suite? It's a bargain and trust me, it is priceless. Hope I added value, keep us posted of your progress. (Eh?! weird... sounded fdr call in show - ish, nevertheless circle back with updates and all the best!)

Hi, Vetting, choosing the right type of crypto currency is an aspect I would be more interested to learn in order to further advance my capabilities of making continously improving decisions. Obviously people who are well versed in trading, sales do better and I have a massive respect for those who are willing to distill their complex ideas into practical pointers. 1. 'playing the game' certainly is essential, having a 'skin' in the learning experience either for better / worse. I heard other aspects like : 2. evaluation of the board members / people behind running the brand (their actions, background, affiliations) 3. how much is being invested in security measures (50K a year is e.g a negligible measure, increases the risk) 4. tech news regarding accessibility (I heard tech firms coalescing to outfit handheld devices with a dedicated chip to facilitate using such currency...sorry for the hear-say I would like to but can't provide a source.. much appreciated if anyone can. ) 5. historical precedents when policies, politics influenced / seemingly did not have a part in advancements. Any more information on this? Barnsley

Hola, Con placer si me viajo alli. Barnsley

Hi Caio Costa, The mere fact that you direct a question to an individual establishes that you believe in the existence of property rights. 0. You did not provide a source, a complete quote and I'm guessing Stefan M. did mention a few, if not a dozen clarifiers and/or caveats as he usually does when making a point. (I'm not saying you are doing the 'stick-man dance' but wouldn't it be simpler to answer your question if you came with proper sourcing?) 1. You distinguish, choose, enact a way of communication = not random noise, consciousness as pre-requisite, you can but don't know why would you argue with a rock. 2. Respecting property rights is part of N. A. P. = is esthetics, but you can't be moral if you don't = because U. P. B. = even if you disregard U. P. B. that doesn't mean both or either vanishes or gets re-written to exclude property rights. 3. Have you heard of the 'two people being unable to steal from each other...' - many great derivable conclusions there, I'd go to the book on U.P.B. for a great step-by-step walk through. If I missed something or made an error, feel happy to add your thoughts, I certainly think you have the right to have them. Barnsley

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Hola Jaime, Wanna meet-up(?) , I'm travelling through. Barnsley

Hi mmillerj, Without thinking much about the answer, make a decision on 'Would you like to have a better life?' A. Yes B. No If you chose B, stop reading any further or come back to it later. If you chose A but don't mean it, same as B. If you are taking responsibility for your life starting with a big, fat and solid 'Yes I want to have a better life!' answer, then this is the summary of the solution that although has it's uphills, always keeps getting better as long as you go in the right direction. (no trick answers, pay me a '1000Smackaroonies' but you will need to be dedicated to yourself, there's no getting around that one.) Here 'tis: being 'in your place', being fully conscious of who you are and why you do the things you do, proudly choosing to be on your side while taking responsibility for any & all of your actions, being your own best friend (supportive, including the friendly 'dick-punch', curious, patient, CONSTRUCTIVELY HONEST, especially about hot red-heads) Any extension, clarification required, just pm here for now.

i was meant to say at last.. Thank you for the link. https://www.gatestoneinstitute.org/10307/europe-more-migrants

Hi Crusader 1986! What I'm saying, summarised : "Lets not rush ahead and conclude things, while not having grasped what's going on. Furthermore, questions alike (I think) tend to 'move goalposts' and it could be argued that what's now is what's actionable compared to probable future scenarios. " In my humble opinion it isn't helpful treating an ongoing process's fluctuations as endings/new beginnings. Perhaps defining a crisis termination as a stability or returning to the previous state could be a constructive way to start thinking about how to begin look at what a migration phenomenon is. I'm not nitpicking (I don't intend to) but aren't you forgetting that 1. consequences associated are far from having 'blumed', 2. forces behind 'pro- salad of diversity' started erasing means of metrics as soon as the first person dared to criticise the initiative = little, less info out on what's the true amplitude (warped indicators = beggars can't be choosers I know but shouldn't we be a bit more focused on dealing with what's going on right now?) Thanks for the btw. Barnsley

Hello to all readers, 1. Arguing the validity of a vote or the current regulations of the burocratic stranglehold doesn't make much sense from the perspective of a long running movement since it's destined to be reformulated and those who are against it will find a way always to bend it. Heavy handed, uni-lateral decisions only further strengthen future retaliation, making it ever more difficult to "get every parties gather around the round table". Only scarred, narrow-minded people act without proper negotiations. Therfore: 'pay me now or pay me later but you will pay me'. 2. The attitude of the Spanish governance in respect of bowing before the will of its citizens can be observed clearly not to be for the betterment in general. My line of thinking comes from looking at how scandals(corruption on the rise, steadily) and priority issues (getting the economy back onto track by supporting the 'producing' class, easing up on restrictions, relying less on the EU... etc) have been handled since the 2008 crisis. The picture is not pretty or encouraging going forward, at all. It isn't surprising to see nationalistic tendencies on either side. In short: What do people with unearned power want? (not less of it, nor owning up to previous mistakes that's observable) 3. Madrid is doing everything to get the 'Jeenie back into the lamp'(pretend that after Franco Cataluna magically forgot the freedoms it had prior to its occupation), heck they might succeed with force. Temporarily. At great costs. Inducing a far stronger surprise down the path. Sure, the international opinion is supportive of the Catalans but to make a transition, allies are a must. I don't see many. Will it be down to the undoubtedly adamant in group preference of the freedom seekers? If you ask me, yes it will unfortunately. Pointers: - The most resolute gets to write the history books. - Madrid is loosing the international opinion quickly. - Catalans are high I.Q. ,strong in group preference, proud people. - Spaniards living in Cataluna are little to none being active when it's time to voice their counter opinions(numbers speak for themselves, passivity and staying quiet is an indication, a preference to submission = sheep) ... Why assume that the majority of Spanish are genuinely different elsewhere? - What the situation also demonstrates to the Spanish is that a community can and does take matters into its own hands. Political/interest groups (largely familiar ties everywhere here in Spain, almost the same as before Franco) must be already preparing for contingencies, as people awakening and learning of their strength is NOT going to be desirable for them. 'Once an elephant learns that the thin rope that restrained its movement during INFANCY , can be snapped effortlessly once in ADULTHOOD(awakening) ...Spain is going to have more than just a freedom seeking region amongst its major worries and it's all downhill from there. Too quickly. Barnsley