Jsbrads

I would recommend a slightly different approach Kid Is Santa real? You what do you think? K No Y why K because... Engage, encourage intellectual exploration... There are times where it may be better not to state your opinion. Which president do you like? Would you have answered? I have thought on this more yet, but I think there is room to leave this up to him without weighing in just yet, he is a bit young to effectively communicate his own thoughts to his mother who is more than likely not a good listener. You should probably speak with your Fiancé about what subjects he believes should be up to just him and the mom. If he wants to tell the kid Santa isn't real, you don't even have to dance around the subject at all. I think it is great you posted here and I wish you all the best. Keep being great. But some of these topics should get your Fiancé's input far more than ours. Also, let him deal with her more. He loves you and has no desire to let her sap your happiness. Thank him and tell him how much it means to you when he does.

Perhaps a tyrant is a better word, but yes a king can be one too

It doesn't take exceptional IQ to become Stalin, one just has to be one or two standard deviations above the population to grab power, murder anyone smarter to take out the competition.

Troubador, I'm pretty sure the real skill at Poker is non reaction, not lying. Also liars can't tell when people are telling the truth, they are no better at detecting lies. S1899 no insult intended, but I think the whole rant was off topic, please challenge me if I'm wrong, but if you don't want to engage with someone, and they ask "can you do me a favor?" Saying "sorry I can't help" doesn't mean you would die of starvation if you helped them. It means based on your judgement, this isn't a favor you are willing to do. Neeeel caught the non response

And geographical separation makes languages. Spain France and Italy have their own unique bastardizations of Latin due to the barriers that prevented easy transit between there localities.

Allowance is to teach money skills. Delayed gratification is an important trainable skill which creates very successful adults. Quantity sufficient for the child to buy something very small, but sufficient for them to save up enough for something relatively significant in a time frame the child can handle. 6 yr old, chips $1, toy $5. replace lost money 10 yr old, ice cream $3, game $20 console with a special treat 14 yr old, arcade $5, sneakers $65 say aw, I'm sorry This isn't for anything, and it isn't even removed for bad behavior, this is an investment so your child can plan and manage money. A child should have basic chores, minimal, connected with improving his or her independence, train them to fold towels, then tshirts, sew buttons, upgrade it as they grow. By 16, they should be able to do everything they need to survive, including cook for themselves simple foods rice, pasta, burgers, salad, scrambled eggs. Don't leave them dependent on you for anything. Of course make dinner for the family, care for them, love them help them with everything, but help them learn too. Large heavy labor type tasks, sweating in the backyard in the summer for an hour, pay them. If they sweat, reward them. Or they won't like to work hard. Wealthy people follow all of this, except for teaching their kids how to sew cook, clean etc, but mostly because they may not know how to themselves.

I won't argue that if you are hiding Jews in your basement and Nazis knock on your front door and ask if you are hiding Jews in your basement, you shouldn't lie. I dont think we have to worry about that kind of case. I am not aware of any reasonable scenario today where children need to lie. A good parent doesn't withhold love if a child accidentally breaks a lamp. If you listened to the Jordan Peterson before, you may have heard how destructive lying can be.

Labor has increased in value. Used to be everyone lived on $1 a day. Now light janitorial work pays $40k/yr, you never go hungry, you are never cold, great medical care.

Milo isn't even close to traversing a line. Free speech is a right and I don't care what Canadians think is free speech. I'm down to No shouting Fire in a crowded theater. And if a guy shouts "Let's beat that guy up!" Only the people who touch the guy should be punished for a beating. Murderers should be executed only. Only the people foolish enough to commit a crime should be punished for it, not loud mouthed politician types.

Wow! Great job guys! Did any particular podcasts encourage you more than any others? Did any have lots of actionable advice? I am a mechanical engineer, graduated a few years ago, ecstatic to join the workplace and make my mark. But I didn't know how to get a job. I would occasionally get close. But no job. I just went to a training course, sat beside some ex-cons and ex-junkies, learning how to apply for work. I have a slightly taller hill to climb after being out of school for so long, but I hope to get that job soon. I basically spend most of my time now driving for Uber and I take any temporary work that would pay more. I worked last winter in a warehouse. I do handy work, catering, tutoring and try to keep paying my bills. The only constant in this world is "This too shall pass."

Why is adoption off the table? I'm not asking for you to tell me, I am asking you to think about it again. I hope to adopt someday. I saw a woman who's husband died while the children were really young. She was very lucky to have a brother, so for you, a close female relative can be critical. But perhaps even better is if you are two people, loving and warm in a way men usually aren't. I think of myself as protective and supportive and those aren't precisely the same. I can't be a preschool teacher, some guys can, watch them, learn how to be like them part of the time. I don't know why I have spent so much time thinking about this scenario, but I have. And other than the above, every other model broke.

Watching Jordan Peterson lectures on YouTube and he discusses telling his child his behavior is out of control and he isn't much fun to be around. He tells his son to gain control of his emotions and then the boy is welcome to join everyone else. And here is the Kicker: the moment the boy regains control, go towards him with open arms and welcome him back. A firm logical statement Openness and joy He will learn very quickly which he prefers, but I won't say it is easy. And it goes without saying, changing tacks midstream makes it a little harder, but the goal is worth it. He will progressively get better at handling his emotions and be the happier for it.

I always thought the best way to teach responsibility is to give a very small task to a very little child. And when he can do that, grow both.

Is an Individualist the most valuable? Capable? Yes. Independent? Yes. Self Esteem? Absolutely. Isn't someone dynamic and social more productive? Don't they have the most access to people's labor? I am referring to a talented leader who can delegate to productive people in a free market or work alone, whichever is most efficient.

I have heard that children learn to lie from their parents. I hope I won't ever do that. But I was thinking about how we do that (other than by example). Rewarding Lies and Punishing the Truth The only things I have puzzled out of this on my own is Asking Questions which the child believes a false answer will yield them a greater reward than telling the truth. Did you break this item? [angry voice] And all the other permutations that exist. Is there more to it? Or is it just that simple? It goes without saying that children are incredibly observant (far more than adults) and you can trick them, so don't try.

The only group of women who make one or two percent more than their male peers are never married single women. Once married, women preferentially take on a larger role in home care and their work effort and pay diminishes slightly even before the onset of children. As a woman's first child gets close to birth, and she has no choice but to decrease her work participation rate, the gap in the two groups widen dramatically. Primary source Thomas Sowell

"It may be possible to construct a culture at times, but usually it isn't an option, most cultures evolve over time, even constructed cultures." -Jsbrads "They evolve out of the statistics of the exercise of individual agency -- and, since you apparently missed this fundamental point in what I said -- that is the locus of the "moral"." -Jabowery No, they evolve out of the successful statistics. Unsuccessful practices don't pass their code forward. Morality doesn't choose who passes. Moral people can fail to pass their ideas forward, especially if the cost is high. A kind of Natural Selection, could have made Germans murderers, and all the peaceful and innocent majority would be weeded out over time in a barbaric time and place.

The inteligencia of today would have voted for Bernie

What is too fast? Prior to the Industrial Age, there were a significant population who would provide day labor (like the guys at Home Depot). They would hangout in a square near the town center at sunrise and wait for an hour. If they got no work, they would collect firewood and draw water or any other person chores needed. Then the dedicated would return at noon seeking a half day of labor. Prior to governmental involvement, a small minority of people were unemployed for a matter of months and to quote Milton Friedman, the Internet should significantly trim that down. Blacksmiths who specialized in making horseshoes were hired to make wheels in Ford's factory. I can't emphasize enough how significant that is. Skills are transferable.

"The corrected mean number of neurons reaches a maximum at 28 weeks of gestation and then declines by approximately 70% to achieve a stable number of neurons around birth." https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/8786390/ I believe number of connections go up... number neurons go down.

To quote Richard Feynman, how you create your theory doesn't really matter only if it is supported by the data.

Are you saying that a society like Ancient Greece or similarly Afghanistan which might raise their next generation by starting these new personalities by thru infant neglect, toddler abuse, prepubescent rape, in a rigid society where the smartest and most outspoken are murdered... will somehow succeed better because of genetics? While a society that treasures its children, attentive to infants, encouraging of toddlers, strictly suppressive of prepubescent sex, protects free speech, seeks nonaggression... will end up worse off in the long term because of genetics?

Society isn't moral, people are moral. Culture isn't responsible, people are responsible. It may be possible to construct a culture at times, but usually it isn't an option, most cultures evolve over time, even constructed cultures. The United States is a constructed culture at an opportune moment in history, the smartest 1% of human history was ready and able to create something that lasted for centuries. FDR was able to deconstructed our culture significantly. I am not aware of any culture that has survived long enough to impact genetics in any real way.

In a free market, this isn't a free market. We have a floor on the wage rate, tax on the total wage, regulatory burdens on businesses, subsidies for inactivity, government education preparing students for jobs that don't exist... the list goes on

Did you know many of the blacksmiths that lost jobs showing horses moved into jobs creating wheels for cars? I kid you not. Look the reality is food production was once manned by 100% of the human population. Think of all those jobs lost by technology and automation. In a free market, there is a natural equilibrium. There is no incentive to create goods that people cannot buy. Every "printed" house, will be a family's home. Every Uber truck will deliver beer to thirsty consumers. People find ways to provide service and organization (value) to the operators of those companies that provide them with homes and drink.