It isn't just physical aggression that creates dominance for men. Eloquence, leadership and productivity allow men to dominate without resorting to violence. Most chimp leaders groom smaller chimps. Larger rats intentionally lose wrestling matches a minority of the time to maintain status quo. The objective is to win more often, even the strongest man can be attacked from behind and subdued. To be sexually selected, a man has to win more than his competitors. Gentle force with a female, tight hugs that don't hurt, show physical capability in excess of her's and solidifies the male's position as protector.