Stephen C

I thought this was going to be an interview hosted by you. Played me like a video game, LP.

When I have more time I will tell more about my daughter Part and my experience with her.

I'd like to write down more, but I don't have much time right now.I wanted to hop in and say that I have no children, but I have a daughter Part of me. When I discovered her she was just a baby on the bathroom floor in my fathers house and now she has her own room in my heart, She asked for Mister Rogers, so he is there with her. She has all kinds of art supplies and flowers on the wall paper. She's the strongest and spunkiest Part in my system and I admire her a lot.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qbrCa8PMcm0http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ll1A3XnAwE

Tadas, what would it look like if I lived my life operating off the belief that UPB was not void and baseless?

You're welcome, Corey. It's nice when my unconscious breaks me off with a dream that is so clear and obvious, although it is tough to follow through with what it's suggesting I do. I'm glad the message was clear for you too. I think I can understand the sadness you feel. This Part of me was so burdened, it had to take on a job no person would ever want to take, jobs that are totally against my true nature as a person. They work so hard for so long... they're the only reason I'm alive to talk about it today. This is why I think they deserve appreciation and understanding. Would you like to say more about what the tears you felt pushing their way to the surface would say if they could speak? I feel sadness reading that it's difficult to give yourself credit, you always deserved acceptance, appreciation and credit. I feel enthusiastic about talking to you on Skype.

Hi, CoreyThank you for sharing your experiences with Self work. I feel happy to read that you are meeting with people that are exploring the path towards truth like yourself. I feel sadness hearing that you have been wounded and that these wounds result in the social anxiety and depression you mentioned. I want to send you my compassion <<Big Hug>>I think it may be useful to ask this Part of you that is feeling overwhelmed / confused if it would be willing to step back from your Self so that you can understand and develop a stronger relationship with him/her. I imagine this Part very much wants to help you but does not feel or actually is not equipped to manage the task of mediating between all the other hard working parts in your personality. He/she might be working extra hard to do this task, this is analogous to a person that is color blind attempting to do a paint by number project. It would be very difficult, this person would need to seek second opinions quite often to complete the project with accuracy. This Part may not want the job it has, maybe it can think of another job it would like? I believe this part deserves appreciation for all the work that it has done and is doing. It may be operating off the premise that he/she IS you, and it may be relieved to see/hear that it is not alone and you are there.A couple years ago I had a dream that took place in a humongous auditorium where everyone in the world (my inner world) was waiting for an opportunity to step up to the stage where a microphone was set up so they can put forward their wants/needs. On stage was George W Bush (a manager Protector Part) and his cronies. He was listening to what each Part was saying and taking notes. An overweight woman stepped up to the microphone and said "I want more bananas", so George W. wrote down "More Bananas" and said "Ok, we will have more bananas." The next woman that stepped up to the mic was thin and said "I want less bananas", so George W. wrote down "Less bananas" and said "Ok, we will have less bananas". At this point my view shifted I saw the entire auditorium from a high up birds-eye view. I was bigger than the entire planet and I could hear and see everyone that was in the auditorium at the same time. I moved my face closer to George W. until I was face to face with him, he was the only person in the auditorium that could see me at the time. I said to him "This will not work, you cannot have both more bananas and less bananas at the same time". He replied "Ron Paul wouldn't do a better job!". I calmly said to him "I haven't said anything about Ron Paul. What I am saying is that it's impossible to have more bananas and less bananas at the same time".I noticed he was defensive and that he felt overwhelmed with the job he had. He was doing the best he could, and he wanted to do a good, but he was simply not equipped for the job imposed on him. I felt compassion for him, what a terrible position to be stuck in. He didn't want the job, but he didn't know what else to do. Then I woke up. I have done and do Self work by myself (self dialogue, reading, journaling, listening to podcasts and watching videos) and also meet with a therapist. My therapist cannot do work for me, no one can, but it is useful to talk to someone outside of myself that I trust and has worked on Self exploration. My therapist models for me the qualities of Self that I may not be connected to at any given time, which has been beneficial for me. It has also been helpful for me to talk to people that are on the same path that I am or are on a path I want to be on, like you described. These friends are therapists, you and I are as well. We just don't have the documentation to practice under the title legally. I would feel privileged to chat with you sometime, my Skype name is StephenC718.

You're welcome, R. Thank you for acknowledging my experience and sending me compassion. <3

I think it would be worth doing a podcast as well, I've heard it's the most selling game of all time and it's super popular right now so this should drag in a lot of views. Great suggestion

I'd suggest focusing on parenting / family.Why does this kind of feminism exist?

I don't know anyone that can't appreciate a high five. Up top!

"Paul Ferrini is the best selling author of over 40 books on love, healing and forgiveness."www.paulferrini.com http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fekLa216MFQ

This makes sense to me, thank you for sharing.I think I can understand that lack of enthusiasm towards bureaucracy and paperwork. I'm sorry that your time and energy was wasted and unappreciated, that is incredibly discouraging. I began to journal exclusively with the Parts of me that do not want me to write. All my writing went into expressing and conversing with these Parts of myself. I have found that was incredibly useful. I have developed a better relationship with these Parts and I am granted permission to write and do paperwork more and more. It is a slow process, but I recognize that the longer it takes me to heal a wound the deeper it is and the more it is in need of mending.Hopefully this makes some sense.

If you could control the you in the dream, what would you have him do?

The title of this thread is "Compassion for twins", but it sounds like "Compassion for the mother of twins" might be more accurate. You expressed more compassion to the mother than the children.I would of acknowledged, made eye contact with the children and mirrored their expression so they can see that someone gets them and send the message that having the reaction they are having is just right. Majority of communication is non verbal. You can also explain to the mother, if you wanted, that sometimes it's not about doing something for children, it's more about feeling something for children.

In this interaction, did you express more compassion to the mother or to the children?

Thanks for sharing, Marc. I think it's great you took some time to get involved.I'd like to make a suggestion. I think your interaction with the mother was great from how to describe it, but I think the children needed to be heard and shown understanding just as much if not more than the fully grown adult woman that has a a lot more options for being heard than the children do. I'm reminded of the "Mothers Table" thread. It seems you tend to focus on what the parent needs, but less so the child. I know that the way I was raised I was forced to bend over backwards for my parents, to "forgive" them, to give them what little compassion I could muster, which left me with none for myself. From what you've told me about your parents, it sounds like the same applies to your experience as a child. My parents did need compassion and understanding, their parents did not give this to them. Their parents took from them what little compassion they could muster for themselves, which is why, I think, my parents repeated this cycle with me. You've explained you are not repeating this cycle with your children, at least not any more, which is great to me. I guess what I'm suggesting is, if you can, try to spend more of your focus on the children. They cannot afford or hire a therapist to give them what they need. They cannot seek out people in the world that will listen to them yet. What do you think?

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Well, this sounds like a crippling and torturous childhood you had to struggle through, I'm sorry this is the situation you unluckily landed in through no fault of your own. I imagine that in order to navigate this existence with the least abuse possible inflicted on you, you had to internalize the people that would attack you for making your own choices and following through with them. This means there are Protector Parts (your parents) inside your head that don't want to allow Exiled Parts (you as a child) to make choices and follow through because they're concerned or fearful about what might happen. It sounds like they are doing a fantastic job, and if it weren't for them you would of experienced a lot more attack from others as a child.I want to send them appreciation for keeping you safe for so long. Since you are still in contact with your family I imagine these Protector Parts that work so hard would have an even tougher time letting go of their duties than if you weren't still interacting with them, since you are still at risk for attack. I think it could be useful to inform these talented Protector Parts that there are many more options available to them now, and see if they will accept your help to explore these options. I would guess they don't like the jobs they are doing so maybe they can find jobs they do like. It could be worth asking these Protector Parts for permission to make contact with your Exiled Parts so that you can give them the attention and care that they deserved. The attention and care that you deserved as a child. I would like to send those Exiled Parts a hug with a side of compassion, they have been lacking the care they deserved for too long. I think it could be beneficial to seek out a caring, compassionate and curious therapist to help you sort all this out when/if you have a chance. It's a lot of work to do on your own. I hope this makes some sense. If you have any questions please feel free to ask.

Another question I think could be useful to consider:What would of happened to you if as a child you decided to make your own choices and follow through with them?

Compassionate?

Sure.i r r i t a t e d But seriously, next time we chat I'll do my best to lay out what my irritation says if you want.

I feel irritated.

Looks like people are saying "shame on you Marc", and there's the response "shame on you for saying "shame on you Marc".Do I have it twisted like a twizzler?Hannibal, is it possible that some people have the reaction you describe because they are wounded and are blended with Intellectual Protector Parts of themselves that work very hard to keep them safe?

You're good shit! <3