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Allot of story tellers and philosophers talk about something called a heroes journey. Where the young or old man breaks the norm and goes on a journey . I say old also because if we look at movies like "Up" and "the secret life of walter mitty " . Its old men or middle aged men who go on a heroes journey . I was wondering if stef has made a podcast on his journey. Or anything about this topic. "A call to action" I remember reading the book "the alchemist " and it made me cry . I couldn't read certain passages. (even though it is a little spiritual its based on allot of real concepts) It seems that this topic hits a cord for me and i would like to hear what you guys and stef have to say about it .

Yeah, and how does that affect the person's (children's ) character .

I want to re listen to it . because I'm in a similar situation, different context . I spent all night looking for it .

Yeah, same here. Kevin i just finished watching those and it wasn't any of those. Ill repost if i find it . Oky Kevin i think i remember what the call was about . It was about a guy who's mother invited him over for dinners. And the poor guy had trouble finding a love relationship. And stef asked him who around you benefits from you staying paralyzed . and he couldn't answer.. and then he explained it was his mother, she was being selfish I think it was that one , i might be wrong

Thanks guys, It was a call in show . It was a guy. I forgot specifically what the question was. But it ended up being that his parents benefited from his disfunction . I forgot what specifically it was. And yes Stef said this a couple of times . But i remember ones he briefly explained why he asked that question. Thanks for taking the time to read and reply

I need help finding this video/podcast. Please help me. Stef ones said to a caller who around you benefits from you being ... (dysfunctional) its not an old episode, its in last couple of months.

thats exactly what i asked myself. I don't know , but i changed that .

I meant to say force him to change his mind. Of course ill give him my thoughts but at the end of the day he makes his decision

I never heard that quote thanks for sharing it. It makes sense to me .

listen on 8:45 This is makes allot of sense

I think that since we control our actions, and we first have to consult ourselfs before doing any action. By definition we are not selfless. Thats my conclusion. Even if i kill myself to save someone. I still did it because i choose and agreed to do it. ( i consulted the self) And it went with my moral/ideals at the moment . so our actions are not selfless because the self has to agree to the action first.. And the self is always present. so actions cannot be self less So yeah people can do things for you but they are not selfless. And allot of the times abusive people use this tactic to regain your trust.

No, it was frustrating because i feel like you didnt understand what i was writing . But that may be because i didn't write down things clearly Thanks for the tip. I actually have heard about this i never tried it though. I do create these conversations in my head though. But i bet they would tell me more if i write them down .

How am i not having empathy for myself ? I did this for me . and i Did give empathy and time to this person. This was just recent. And yeah i do know that there are allot of people in the planet that is one of the reason i decided to do this. I felt depressed with this person because I knew this person and i don't know the 7 billion people in the planet .

Physically it would affects me by loss of energy, and tension in the body. I dont understand why this is relevant ?

Physically ? Well i don't recall exactly what i felt, but i didn't feel good . I feel more or less the same way physically as i would if i was depressed

Yeah, thanks i edited already . They trade the truth for comfort. So it reminds me of all the people who have hurt me in the past.

This is where i got the definition from: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VxSI4JA3Zqk&feature=youtu.be Im not trying to talk to him out of anything don't get me twisted. I just said i felt disgusted at people who choose to take the blue pill . and i don't want to do anything with them.

I agree, sorry i was not clear. I know kids are really smart. But i meant to say he is still an absused kid. and stuck like that I actually gave him allot of time , 4 years to be exact. I would help him with homework and personal stuff. But just when i got to the core of the problem. He decided to start ignoring my tought about why he is this way .. When it got to the point of parents. And i still gave him time . But one day i decided to stop because i was getting frustrated at him complaining about his problems to me and i could do anything about it because the topic about "parents" was not an option . He told me specifically i don't want to talk about that.

I told him, that i can't be his friend any more because we have nothing in common. I became his friend because i thought he wanted to take the red pill. But as i turns out he took the blue pill. I wounder if this was a good move. He is still a little kid, he can't understand basic philosophical concepts and can't to basic task or follow in conversations. Its hard to tell if he is not following in a conversation because sometimes people just nod. I would define a moron as someone who can adapt to there environment and seem normal on the outside. (talk about sports, the weather) But a moron can't understand basic concepts. Example: math concepts, philosophy concepts, economics,... etc One of the things that got me pissed off. Was when I told him that his dad was holding him back, and he ignores it . I know this because he says why aim i lazy or dumb. And i told him who around you benefits from you being lazy and dumb ? he couldn't answer. I told him your dad because if you are gone he will be alone. But he takes it as an attack and ignores it. And acts like nothing just happened. And to me that is discussing because you are basically taking the blue pill .. At least give me a good response. (acknowledgment ) (keep in mind this friend is over aged not a kid anymore . ) When i say basic concepts i don't mean over intellectualized concepts. Im talking about things a little kid could understand.

I want to share something that i just recently came up across. I noticed that, my mother and father use this idea to guilt me. They also social engineer me into isolating myself. Like when scientist rings a bell and feeds the dog. They keep doing it, until the dog salivates whenever it hears a bell. My parents used negative renforcment whenever i would have pleasure, or go out. Till the point where all i did was stay inside. (they use to insult me in passive aggressive ways, so sneaky and slimy that i just realized this a few months ago) Thats why i was asking about this... I was making sure that they where using that phrase as a way to manipulate me.

Thanks for your response Cornellius. I think the pie is a Trojan horse, into the walls of your city. ​Yeah everything we do is because of us, after all we make the decisions. (even if a slave obeys a slave master, they are doing it because they prefer not be wiped or killed) --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I do have a youtube channel I'm still experimenting on what to post. Its a how-to channel. And I'm working on doing some videos that are like what i wrote above. (i just started it) http://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4J-tUe8X-Vf5aZGT9uQD7w

I personally find the question confusing . For example if i do something for my wife, i did it because i love our relationship, or i want to maintain our happiness. But there is always an "I". If I just give 100000 dollars to a homeless person and say "my action is selfless" . In reality I'm doing it because of my morals or believes. Or because it makes me feel good. In reality everything we do is because of our selves ? Thats where i stand. I just want feed back because I'm going to make a video on something related to this .

Thanks guys i will take your advise seriously. It really helps. Today I'm working on writing the lesson for the next part.. And yes , "repetition is the mother of all learning" ..

Thanks for taking the time to reply ... And yes I'm working on that, I cropped it last time but then youtube just put a big black bar there instead.. (to fill in the blank spot) Im 99% sure on the facts. I spent 1 whole day fact checking with my text books ..

I made a new youtube channel and i would like some feed back . Its a basic how to channel . I only have one video right now. Im hoping to finish my series on functions by this week. http://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4J-tUe8X-Vf5aZGT9uQD7w Things Im already working on, my voice and better compositions and format for the videos.. Im new to video editing. Thank you : ) It would help if you guys subscribe... Because It would rank me higher when people do a search... like and comment ... help a brother out .