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Maybe since I'm out there in the dating world I see the shallowness of women more than I do of men , and I might be projecting my experience on women . Im taking a philosophical view on dating and beauty itself and I'm getting chewed up... Also I stopped talking to my old guy friends so I don't see men being shallow as much anymore Also one important thing that I remember stef saying is that women don't have to really on men for resources any more so they don't go for the rich guy anymore ... They go for the pretty one. So I don't think that women going for the rich man is the case

I don't mean to say you are not bisexual I know that exists . What I was trying to explain is that it might come form a different place, compared to being gay that is shown to come from what I explain on top. I just think that no one has figured out bisexuality yet . I know personally someone who said they where bi my whole life but after years of self knowlege they realized they where just gay. So I might be projecting this experience on you ? Sorry if I insulted you

One crazy thing that I just read ! Since the frontal cortex is a new thing to humans. It's an add on . When we proses information first it goes through the "monkey brain" .. Then we react and have these feeling then finally the frontal cortex kicks in .... So for men it's look oh look big boobs , then after that you could choose to examine your reaction and act on it. Same with women...

Great insight i never thought about it like that Yeah I heard about the firing and shadyness but we'll see where it goes I tried watching house of cards and got bored, it was too realistic . I already listen to Fdr podcast plus I got tired of politics . I try to keep them out of my mind most of the time

Yeah I don't disagree I said guys are shallow from the start. And there is noting wrong with that, I think the thing the most bothers me is people who say they are not shallow when in reality they are

Haha I know they are stupid . It's very cheesy, I wonder why I'm addicted to it ??

We'll it doesn't have any depth or philosophy in it. I like watching hypotheticals like what if there was a nuclear war...etc It's basically a good drama, it keeps you on the edge. It has friendships and love story's in it. I don't really care about the zombies what I like is how people react to the circumstances. You could switch zombies for anything else and it will still be a good show . It's kind of like a soap-opera, you now it's cheese but it still a good story . I'm like a kid, I like good stories

That has actually been proven wrong. Even stef apologized after saying that once. What happens is that when the fetus is forming the first priority is to build the body so if it's a female you need estrogen and other hormones. Once the body is formed then it builds the brain and if the mother is lacking in hormones it will use other hormones instead. So you can have a female with the wiring of a male (in the brain ) This could happen if the mother is lacking the correct hormones.Im not a scientist but this is the main idea

Well another thing to consider is the fact that you father is your template. If you didnt have a father that means you didnt have a template, so you learned what it means to be a man by others or didnt learn about it. -thus your bi-sexuality could have formed there. From what i understood in my phycology class is the bi-sexuality is not possible. The professor explained that you could be gay but your brain is weird for only one. (according to the theory) In my personal experience i did have a dad but he was never home and always neglectful and he frightened me. I never learned what it was to be a man, i always had troubling relationships. I didnt have a good template.

Good point on the women impressing other women, i guess i generalized too much because i noticed that my mom does that but i projected it to all women . But, about the "few men appreciate a woman's mind". I disagree ! I think allot of men appreciate a woman's mind; that is my whole point about this. There are Men out there that are serious about there relationships and are not shallow but we have monkey brains that say O look big breast, or big mussels and tall ! Then Men and Women complain that there are no nice people out there. This is my whole point about shallowness.

If you do lets talk about the latest episodes, I'm a big fan.

Lets say you are a computer program or a brain in a bucket...... You still exist you are that computer program and or that brain in the bucket. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- sometimes asking the right question can be harder than getting a correct answer.

I remember my psychology professor talking about this. It reminded me of religion and statism.

I think that, women do develop their beauty but to attract what kind of man ? (think about that) hint: a man who is shallow himself because if this woman develops her beauty and not her mind as much, then a man who likes her likes her for her looks ! (in general) And in general i think this is a perception that women have. The media makes them feel ugly when in reality the average guy thinks they are attractive. Im not impressed with girls with make up and high heals...etc Most of the things that women do is to impress other women. Im not saying don't worry about your look at all but some of these things to me seem like they are not even to attract men. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Anyways sorry to generalize all women i don't mean to... its pure conjecture I think women need more confidence, since culture tells them that they need to be passive. A man has no self-esteem, if he doesn't get girls to like him. If he stays passive. And i think its the same for women.

Im in spiring break and it would be cool to meet fdr listeners for a coffee !

yo my name is ivanlares I could record the conversations if you want, Its kind of tricky but i think i could make it happen.

I agree both Men and Women are shallow. (in general) I think we are wired that way, it takes allot of self-knowledge and virtue to consciously make a decision to ignore the monkey brain.

I agree with you, thats what i found most interesting.

I think you summed it up very well. Anyways I think your definition is correct and I do think that shallowness is immature.I use to be shallow and my relationships where immature they never developed into anything serious. After years in Fdr I started challenging my shallowness until I changed, and I had this perception that only men are shallow and women care more about feelings . But I was wrong Ps I posted a link to a definition on top . I think it does a very good job of describing what I meant by shallow

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shallow

If you had to generalize would you say this is the case? I was talking to sister about this and we both agreed that they are. I was just curious about what you guys & girls think . The most interesting thing about this is that we all know men can be shallow, I choose not to hang out around those guys. But with women they advertise themselves as wanting a "nice" guy when in reality they are looking for the good-looking or rich guy... I don't think there is anything immoral with being shallow but lets be honest about it.

This is something that i have been thinking about for a long time but i didn't feel conferrable sharing it. Im talking about success in terms of a career, not overall life so keep that in mind. p.s if you like this video please subscribe -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-u0T44XvRAw

I signed up to one near me but no one really sets up dates. We need more numbers

I know that is the goal of it, but i don't think they accomplish it because your senses are still working. My point was that you can't turn of your senses. i wasn't clear. Anyways thanks for your reply, that was what i have read online by people who think its not helpful By your body being in the way i meant things like sound and body pain... But thats a good point. I can't relax in my house but what if i just go lay down in the beach when its empty or something, would it be a different experience ?

Yes sure, let me know what you think. I may be wrong in what i said I'm still processing it. Here is the link: I agree with you that makes allot of sense. If someone "should be feeling something" and they are not you should find out why . If it is true.