Copper_Heart

No worries. You can just separate economical and psychological/biographical parts of your posts. Still you are in tough situation: you want to homeschool plus you have to work from home. Probably people just do not know what to advise you because of rarity of your situation. What if you talk with Michael about your question to Stef. Do not ask only about job, but ask about life in general. It may be interesting topic. Best of luck!

Hi, I think this is something quite complicated. I am sorry I can give you virtually no advice because I think it is very entangled and complicated. Have you considered to call Stef? Economy is in shambles and homeschooling is an alien topic to many. I guess you live in USA. Sadly I have no slightest idea how to help you and I think people who read your post had not, too. I know calling Stef is not much of advice per se. My best wishes, Cooper.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irwin_Schiff https://www.facebook.com/FreeIrwin/posts/856634724452199 He was fighting the state; he became a prisoner of conscience. This is a sad news and there is little more I can add to it, but I wish to share.

Thanks everybody for answering to my call with a kind word! I actually find it hard to watch any movie where anything of substance happens. Any emotional tension makes a movie unwatchable for me. Breaking Bad for example is just completely out of question. I stop every 5 minutes because I am too stressed. I always forget about getting out and getting some fresh air. Will definitely do that. Thanks! I read it long time ago, I will reread it soon. I have not remembered about anxiety being addressed there, so thanks for reminding. So far my plan is this way: All communication devices off. I just do not trust my self in this state. Breath exercises. Drink soothing herbs or teas Get music player and get out in comfortable clothes, may be do some exercises. I am completely unfit for any kind of useful labor at this point. Wait. Let hormones and adrenaline dissipate. I wanted to bring meditation, but my cortex, I believe is completely exhausted by this point. At the moment of anxiety I can't read or watch any thing, but generally I am addicted to news. I agree that it messes with one's head, not very useful besides. I wish I could've just stop. Sadly I do not have any who I can trust to take care of my emotional baggage. Talking to any person who I do not trust completely will just make it acutely worth later, because I will second guess what they think about me like a madman. It is hard to tell. Whenever I try to "watch" it I suddenly am unable to discern what is happening. I have almost painful feeling in the middle of the palms, in my heart and in my chest. Generally I always do have slight tingling in this places, but it becomes really strong at the moment. There is something more but I am not able to recall it. I think that this anxiety is related to my childhood: my mother was getting mad over some nonsense and put me into time out/kick me out saying she does not want to see me[ever again]. I would receive some spanking and emotional trashing. In 5 minutes crying beside myself with grief I would come to ask her for forgiveness. Cycle would've repeat again. Heavy abandonment issues. Thanks for techniques. I would love to get professional help, but I only can work on this myself for now(doubt there is anyone competent around anyway).

Can you point out why you think I am manic, I tend not to see those things for my self, plus I am not overly confident in where this term should be applied though I know the definition. I am not sure about panic attacks. Probably yes. I have some times moments when I think every thing is going to hell, but they usually happen only when I am already distressed. Yeah, I will do breathing then. I knew about it but it never actually entered my mind... funny. http://psychcentral.com/lib/whats-the-difference-between-depression-and-manic-depression/I found this article I think I fit some what in description. But as far as I understand Manic Depression is cyclical, what I have was triggered. I live alone and I do not remember having emotional swings without an outside cause. In this case it is a perceived abandonment, which comes from my childhood and is my main/only source of this type of strong anxiety. Thanks for taking your time and answering!

Hello every body, So I wrote an email to a friend talking about some personal staff, nothing actually happened on the other end, but before I got it I got so anxious... and I wrote and to my parent about how I fucking hate university and staff and that I am fed up. Now I probably will have tough talk consisting of me being put down. It is my present source of anxiety. Do you have some plan when you feel anxious? I am lost a bit here. I understand that I have to cease contact with every person I know because I write to some person(ie my family) from whom actual abuse may come. But I do not know how to mitigate the pain. I need to study a lot, I need to sleep, but I am overflown with grief. There is literally nothing that can calm it down. I hope if can reinforce my prefrontal cortex next time, I will get out from anxiety event without somebody giving me extra pain. I read that having an actual plan written can help brain to help execute it during the distress, as opposed to just having an idea. I will have my ass handled to my self tomorrow and I dread the consequences, but please write if you know something interesting. I will myself try to compile something good to give back to community.

TheRobin, I read your threads about Coherence therapy and I want to thank you for writing them although you did not get much answer, because it is probably most useful peace of information about psychology I found on internet. For fist time I fell like somebody switched on the light and psychology market place and I do not have to stumble on the next crook, but may guide myself to a professional. Thank you very much for posting it and spreading information.

>I just bought this book and the workbook after watching some videos on the topic. I'm working with a coach and her successes with me seem to be following this exact model -- though accidentally I think. Hence I bought the book and am seeking to learn how I can move forward on my own. Hi, villagewisdom! Would you be so kind to share some info about the workbook you are talking about? I am searching if there is any related but, can't find. Thank you!

I was a commie! I think politicians are like narcissists who fog their victims so that at some point you just fed up with staff that makes no sense and become apathetic. >I tried to overlook that but she ended up being a crappy therapist anyways I am talking obviously from my own bad experience, so do not take it seriously: Something similar happened to me too: I expressed my feeling about some matter and therapist asked "Well you are exaggerating". I explained my point of view and all, but this incident was always on back of the head of my mind making me feel uneasy. Long story short, if you loose respect to your psychologist if you can not be honest and at easy at her presence, if you are "managing" your relationship it is pretty much over. Loosing respect for your counselor means you are proactively closed to her and can not trust her. Money lost. I would argue that psychologist who is openly expressing political or whatever preferences is not really good one, because this action are polarizing. I do not know how to say it, but if he is expressing his identity too much or pushing his opinions it is no good. You should voice it if you want to continue with same psychologist and may be it will work out, other vise just change him.

I had a messy experience with psychology, but I feel like coherent therapy is really onto something. The problem is, I doubt there are any in my country. I know it is a very short into. Could you give me your opinion or share your experience on online therapy? I am interested in caveats and if it is at all possible. I am not even sure how I am gonna find a therapist who practice coherent therapy, let alone online. Thank you very much.

Like a guy who is going to college, please do not help boys gain interest in college! I have give up 3 job offers while studding, because every one said that it was so important. I would have gained money and experience in the field on top of same prestige as in academia. I am studding outdated material which is given to me by some times incompetent people. It was an emotional torture in a socialist environment, where people who teach usually do not have any experience outside academia, and better quality material is available in the web. Also many times you never use most of your knowledge and have to learn it again because nobody will trust you with it any way. This is my overly motional opinion, but I hope you can see where I am coming from.

It is alright respond when you you feel comfortable! I am prone not to answer immediately mysefl. I can understand your fear. Stef pretty much is the only guy around here being vocal about the issue(as far as I know), and being media how it is his stance on the issue looks particularly radical. It is not irrational to expect few people from such community to be even more radical then the host himself. I can only speak for myself, but I think it is not the case for this community. Here people are less afraid to have serious problems(by which I mean admit them and try to solve them). And one thing I tell you for sure: people who are trowing stones have huge issues of their own, which they are not working on and are dead set to hide. And here people came to admit and to work on issues. So ain't gonna find those fellas in this town!(Read with rich southern accent) One can't meat a person who is set on making world(and himself) better with hostility! But I am repeating myself. Your courage is commendable and your desire for truth will bear fruit! This said I expect this community to be honest and honesty cuts deep, but it is never malicious nor is it's effect. Just remember you are never alone here and your desire to learn and to talk about will never be looked down upon. Yeah, Stef prety much introduced me to every philosophical and political aspect I am holding right now. And his call in shows, I never expected so much to hear so much honesty, to hear people talking so openly about such difficult issues, never expected to find it in my life. I doubt I knew it even existed. I am reading for quite long time, though I have a very few posts. I guarantee you are welcome here. Don't be afraid to take your time aether. You have written that you had ineffective counseling, so few words about that too. I also have bad experience, but I found a book "Unlocking The Emotional Brain"(it is a book for psychologists not self help guide) mentioned and this forum and got it in my closes library(cause no money ^o^). http://www.coherencetherapy.org/files/Unlocking_the_Emotional_Brain-Ch1.pdf First chapter available to every one. This book is based on actual neurological research in a laboratory that was successfully replicated all the times. Which is important because in psychology only 10% gets replicated(and most of this replications fail!), so 90% is unbacked hoax(can find a link an article about problems of psychology in this matter if you want it)! I am very excited about this book, have recommended it to my friend and she never answered me back(probably reading ~_^). And it matches perfectly what Stefan is saying. Or you can find a psychologist who does coherence therapy. P.S. This was lengthy...

Hi, I am newbie too! Looking forward to conversations with you. Who is Julian? P.S.: I suppose you named your self "Aether" out of anonymity concerns, so you kind of disclosing your name.

So, I really appreciate your being here. You do not know how great it really is! I (kind of) understand how much you must have given up to here. My mother was a single mother(for a period of time), and I know a lot of single mothers(surrounded by them). My aunt is one for example. If my mother or my aunt watched Stef... well, they never would've. Had hard time my self accepting and understanding what he is saying. If you do not mind me asking: how have you found Stefan? why have you stayed?

That will be my next step. Sadly all therapist I had before were no good. Thanks!

I read a lot of this researches and masturbation lowers chances from 1/5000 to 1/6000. Jacking off 2 times a month or once a week is enough. Cool. Other things I want to correct is that it is not possible to "withholding a natural bodily process", it happens automatically when you pee. I also find that I am feeling much better and performing much better at every task, when I am abstaining. Yey, I am not capable of satisfying this drive without going into over-drive. I know that what you are saying is valid, but please try to understand where I am. It is like a food addiction, you can eat carbonara and donuts once in a while and be perfectly healthy, or you can be morbidly obese. I think good test for addiction would be: do you need it to survive, do you need it on the physical level? Can you abstain from it for a lengthy period of time? Is it neutral for or good for your health? Can you recommend me some books, Kurtis? Or any thing that was useful to you. It is incredibly frustrating. And I am sorry that I am being an asshole, but pain is real and I am struggling for 5 years to get over it.

I read Dr.Gabor's book. It has great insight into addiction. I would dare to resume the solution that I found in his book as follows: To get over and addition you need to change your environment, so that it stops being depressive and dragging you back and begins to promote movement and creativity instead. Dr.Gabor presents experiment called "Rat Park", where addicted rats dropped morphine themselves when they moved from typical rat cage to a rat park. Rat park was simulating real life environment, had interesting attractions and so on. Rat had full access to morphine but stopped using it. Humans have it bit harder.

I will try to share my experience with this topic and compare it to yours. So I will comment extensively. Same thing. I always felt like this hole of emptiness in the middle of my chest right after. I am one of those guys, but I would argue that porn is not at fault. Alcohol and drugs where accessible, but I never did them, because I knew they were bad. I had no idea that porn was, bad and nobody told about side effects. If they did most probably would not ended like this. Viagra is actually works, but just down there. When you get PIED you realize your [upper head] is just as important during love making. When I started watching porn just looking at a picture of boobs would make me stone hard but now, in the last few years there were times in which I could not get erect even with hardcore porn. This made me incredibly scared and concerned. The thing I most regret in my life is rushing to lose my virginity. I am a men. I was too obsessed at the time. Just got me an extra cockroach to deal with. Yes, they are. I went as far as 150 days. You clearly felt different in a good way. Cured PIED. But I ultimately failed and could not recover ever since. The only problem is that "Once an Addict Always an Addict". It is ok. It just gets you when you pee, in worst case when you sleep.