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When you said "doesnt often use the term", were you talking about "IFS" or "therapy"?

I find everything you said reasonable. Stefan has been shining light on the atheist community at large and talking about the virtues of Christianity for quite some time now. This is not what I was arguing against. My point of contention was that your decision does not appear to be taken on the grounds of epistemological conviction. What I think you did is more of an "utilitarian" shift. As I see it, you basically said "Most atheists are unhappy/unvirtuous/shallow/self-destructive/ etc. and most Christians are the opposite and thus I am going to follow them instead". The first thing that pops into my mind is the fact that Stefan is an atheist! And he created this show and is happy and is married and empathetic and deep and etc...while having been an atheist since he was a teen! So, clearly being an atheist does bind you to being like most atheists. And this is why I am a bit taken aback about your line of reasoning here. The one who created this show which might be the one who influenced you the most is not a Christian and you have not given him a listen on his arguments on this issue but you have already decided to head to the Christian community already.

I am not getting your approach to this whole religion thing... You brought up being raised as an agnostic/uneducated and now you want to transition to Christianity, did I understand that properly? If so, why? (That is what I am unclear about) Did you listen to any of Stefan's arguments against the existence of God, the absurdity of agnosticism or read the book "against the Gods?" Do you find his arguments not strong enough or at least not persuasive enough?

Our understanding of reality is not "changing". It is adjusting. It merely becomes sharper and sharper which allows it to explain things at a progressively smaller level with more accuracy. This is different from changing itself in such a way that contradicts the fundamental principles of the previous theory. For example, we will never "discover" that the Earth is flat in the future. And then that is round again. And then that it is, in fact, banana-shaped and so forth in this chaotic never-ending cycle of uncertainty. At best, it is possible that we might discover that it is a tad more elliptical then we previously thought it was. This as an analogy.

All this. Also, I felt frustrated when he let Russell make that point about if there is such a thing as absolute truth blacks being inferior because of their lower iq on average. You cannot expose yourself as more of a racist than this. Being inferior at something does not make you simply "inferior". That is like me saying I am inferior to anyone who is taller in me when in fact I am only inferior in height.

Is it true, what they are saying? That Sargon is a literal cuck?

I would start by listening to the relevant podcasts Stefan has done on the topic. He has a couple of interesting ideas. The most popular on this topic I believe is "How to find a nice girl" you can type that into youtube. I generally believe that you are more likely to find virtuous women at social events or gatherings that focus on things which are value based rather than online or bars and clubs.

Not sure how many failed attempts on average it takes for you to do that. Women changing because of and for men with the purpose of elevating themselves morally and intellectually is something I have not even seen in even in movies. I am sure it does happen, but I am sure it is really rare.

First off welcome to the forum and I am sorry for your childhood. It is not rare that I hear childhood horror stories from people who joined the military. I am really curious about those 48k worth of therapy. I am not exaggerating when I am telling you that you can buy a really nice house in my country with this money. What did the therapy consist of? And how many years have you been going through it? I am guessing it had to be tons of sessions. Thank you for creating this thread.

Is there an android verison?

Care to explain what you mean?

No thanks. I would rather be a philosopher.

I see no problem with Stefan's definition. "Unconditional love" can be easily transposed with affection. I believe the appropriate emotional state towards someone who is not a moral agent yet is the feeling of affection, which affectively speaking is really similar to the feeling of love but differs exactly because of that reason.

I am ready to hear the argument.

I assume you only read the title? In my OP I explained that since they lack tags you have to manually look for them.

They don't...and I never said otherwise. Also, I do not see how is this relevant to what I said. Presumably, you are an atheist because through reason and evidence you came to the conclusion that believing in God is irrational and unsubstantiated. The fact that you are an atheist is a true and honest fact about yourself (even if I grant for the moment the fact that God actually exists) and if you would rather hide truths about yourself due to the fact that there are prejudiced people who would immediately jump to unfounded conclusions about you, then you are either surrendering your reason or at least your honesty to other's prejudices, irrationality and lack of curiosity. Either way, it serves their interests while being detrimental to you. I can't imagine how you can think this is a good idea.

*120 not 130

From mid-2013 till early to mid-2014 More precisely they exist but they are really hard to find since they contain no tags so this means they won't show up when you use the search function. The only way you can reach them is scrolling manually but you have to know what you look for otherwise you are really likely to miss them. I am willing to bet that most new listeners have never come across them and I think some of those calls could easily make the FDR hall of fame.

Both I believe. Maybe his IQ is not 150 like Peterson claims his is but Stefan definitely does the most of his. Also, pre-therapy Stefan was a programmer and a successful entrepreneur who sold his company for millions if I remember accurately, this is no accomplishment of your average Joe.

This is a great theory I believe. Although my first thought when I attempted to come up with an answer to this thread's question was that the fear stems from the fact that bringing up meaningful topics automatically puts you into a position of vulnerability in front of the other person so it exposes you to the threat of being affected by a negative judgement by the other person.

So you care more about how people perceive or think of you rather than what is true and rational? The essence of the social metaphysician...

How did you determine that?

When I first started reading this forum (2013) the activity on here was much more intense. There were a lot more high-post and high-reputation members who were involved into the threads. Nowadays, to me it feels like you could count on your fingers the number of regular posters. Also, with a handful of exceptions all of the early listeners and/or reputable folks have vanished from the boards. Lately, I found myself often contemplating how is this possible given that the show has grown probably tenfold in listenership from back then and instead of increasing the forum involvement has decreased. What are your theories on this? Has the FDR conversation moved somewhere I am not aware of?

People who are broken remain broken. (unless they directly act on resolving themselves). Even if you get them to adopt a new perspective and discard feminism I do not believe this would fundamentally transform anything about them. Their dysfunction still remains and will show up in other areas. Submitting to some beliefs is not the same as arriving at those beliefs through reason.

I think it is great you are being proactive and took action by writing this post. My first curiosity is whether you discussed this with your therapist and assuming you did, what was his input? Did you disagree with him/her or were confused by the answer and wanted further input? To briefly answer your question, I do not see why you wanting to talk to your father and not with your mother would be hypocritical, unless I missed something, you already gave your mother enough opportunity to work things out with you and she was not committed to take the steps to improve things between you. You could try giving your father the same amount of opportunities and see if he is genuinely cares about your relationship, unlike your mother. Although, after being mistreated as a child I believe it is entirely up to the parents to try to build/rebuild the bond, not the other way around. IMO this could really be call-in-show worthy, Stefan has always been staggeringly illuminating on these issues.