J. D. Stembal
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Why men find thinner women attractive
J. D. Stembal replied to Alan C.'s topic in Men's Issues, Feminism and Gender
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Promoting Voluntarism Through Genital Integrity
J. D. Stembal replied to J. D. Stembal's topic in Peaceful Parenting
Thank you for the supportive words, Hannah. I know that there are other men thinking about this issue out there, but they are too afraid to speak out. This thread is proof of that. On a forum of 95% men, no other men are confronting their emotions about genital mutilation, but me. It's been a slow unfolding of events in my life that has allowed me to see just how harmful this abuse was. This process accelerated last summer when I gave up alcohol, drugs and sexual relationships. There has to be sexual abuse in my past, but I can't recall being molested as a child, only the pain and agony of my mutilation and subsequent parental abandonment. My father did spank my bare ass. I have unexplained quirks. I would hold my bowels and delay voiding them for as long as possible as a child. I have extreme difficulty urinating if anyone is present. I obsessively scratch at my scrotum when I am having trouble sleeping, so much so that I've given myself lacerations. I have to religiously clip my finger nails. I've gone to see the urologist thinking that I had a STD due to repeated painful urination, but it turned out that nothing was wrong with me. How was I in pain if nothing was amiss? The body remembers the trauma of genital mutilation even though the conscious mind wants to forget. I want this curse lifted from my body! I recall having negative thoughts about my circumcision as a teenager and keeping a journal, but very soon thereafter, I had a depressive meltdown, almost flunked out of school, and was drugged by my parents. I burned the journal, and stopped keeping one from that point forward. I matured sexually and actively courted girls at a young age, eventually losing my virginity at age 18. I don't recall having an orgasm during intercourse until weeks into this very short relationship. My genitals are fucked up to put it mildly, and no doctor botched the procedure. The procedure itself is designed to botch men's sex lives. After twenty years of alcoholism, meaningless sex and self-medication, I am now brave enough to be angry, and other men are trying to get me to go back into the box. A couple women have suggested that I restore my foreskin, as if that will erase the trauma I experienced.- 28 replies
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Why men find thinner women attractive
J. D. Stembal replied to Alan C.'s topic in Men's Issues, Feminism and Gender
The only reason fertility goddesses are depicted as overweight is because that's what happens to women when they are fertile and attractive. They get knocked up and grow more humans inside of them. Staying overweight after the fact is the perfect way to not have another child. Likewise, being obese without children is a mark of infertility due to the hormonal ravages of metabolic disorder. Men do have sex with the overweight, on occasion, so it's not as if fat women are not getting laid enough. Please explain the logic behind your assertions, Green. Why would food have any bearing on what humans find attractive sexually? -
Promoting Voluntarism Through Genital Integrity
J. D. Stembal replied to J. D. Stembal's topic in Peaceful Parenting
I'm struggling with this issue a lot right now. I managed to have an intactivist block me today via email, and I'm consulting with a therapist. I cannot pursue a lawsuit as the statue of limitations doesn't cover genital mutilation, so I have no way of financially dissuading doctors from doing it in the future. Genital mutilation is a keystone issue for my health and wellness. Listen to this show and you will understand how I am feeling now. We live in a world that hates men.- 28 replies
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Why men find thinner women attractive
J. D. Stembal replied to Alan C.'s topic in Men's Issues, Feminism and Gender
In the future of medicine, hemoglobin A1c will be probably be the metric of choice for predicting health outcomes. It already correlates perfectly with risk of developing dementia. http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa1215740#t=articleMethods As a man who has spent eight weeks in a gym, I can confidently say even if a woman trains 6-7 days a week and cuts out most sugar, she isn't going to lose her mammary glands entirely, although they firm up a little. The jock girls at the gym make up for it by having expansive bubble butts, though. Squats and such compound movements that include the glutes are the best way to get a more prominent posterior, male or female. Michael, is there any chance we can get a health and wellness sub-forum category in the future? -
Why So Few Women Anarchists?
J. D. Stembal replied to brucethecollie's topic in Men's Issues, Feminism and Gender
Women also find the penis revolting. Perhaps we should all remove ours so women can finally be content. And women seriously wonder why men don't want to sleep with women with this kind of rhetoric floating around. To be honest, we do want to fuck you, but we also want to be one hundred miles away by the time you wake up in the morning, so we don't have to hear you bitch about men and how you have it so hard. According to this article, men are, in no particular order: Neckbearded Smelly Scum Weak Creepy Rapey Perverted Unbearable Humorless Unambitious Sociopathic Manipulative Selfish Incapable of sex Let's all play a game and see which traits we can affix to Lily, and then we can tell her all about her stunning qualities. -
Why So Few Women Anarchists?
J. D. Stembal replied to brucethecollie's topic in Men's Issues, Feminism and Gender
Of course, I carry a lot of anger. I'm very glad it is obvious to everyone because it is there and I draw on it as a fire consumes wood for fuel. It is my energy and lifeblood. I used to try to hide it and deny it, hence the twenty years that I spent getting wasted all the time. I'm not attempting to paint a bleak picture for voluntarists. In fact, I am holding onto the hope that we can make a difference in the world. Considering the reception of the Roosh V. thread, and the larger topic of men's rights, if the philosophically minded and peaceful men cannot sell the goods to women, it will be all for naught. That's just human nature, I'm sorry to say. For example, in my last relationship which ended 15 months ago, I challenged the idea of feminism being a social good, and started to think of it as a hate group, and rightly so. This was around the time of #KillAllMen. My girlfriend was not convinced. Eventually, she capitulated and started calling herself a humanist instead of a feminist. Her best friends were also feminists and would have conversations about me behind my back ridiculing me for being a "men's right activist." I know that not every woman is like that, but men have to be realistic about this. Society isn't going to change overnight, and some of us will die childless for our convictions. That's a fact. You will notice that Stefan waited until after marriage to start a philosophy channel on YouTube. That was very clever of him to do. I'm coming at it from the reverse angle. I've found philosophy first, and I'm trying to figure out how to use it successfully to find the perfect mate. If I cannot find a woman that wants me, so be it. My father already had my children for me, so gene death does not apply to me. Fear the man who is not willing to compromise or refrain from speaking his mind! P.S.: I've wanted to chat with you since we were talking hammocks and footwear a while back. I would be glad to have a conversation, friendly or heated, or whatever we choose. My name is jonathan.stembal on Skype. -
AncapFTW, how are men deliberately misrepresenting the truth? Would you please explain? To everyone else: Why do we have so many closet feminists in this community? Could someone please enlighten me? I'm only at negative 12 reputation in this thread. I am very disappointed, gents. I summon the feminist rep cartel!
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Promoting Voluntarism Through Genital Integrity
J. D. Stembal replied to J. D. Stembal's topic in Peaceful Parenting
Thank you so much, Mellomama! We should talk about this some time soon! I have not heard of Ron Low, but I have had at least one person tell me to seek out foreskin restoration in this context of vulnerability. I find it to be further disheartening, because it allows some people to dismiss the issue and its severity and allows them to pretend everything is going to be all right with the sex lives of mutilated men, but it will never be right. I'm coming to peace with this reality, slowly. I will never have a normal sex life, and I never did. I will check out any videos of Ron Low's, if I can find them, but I'm not interested in anything less than being reborn as an intact man with parents that care enough about me not to savagely mutilate me, but that is not possible. I've got to be who I am without my foreskin. I'm out of reps, Bruce! I owe you one. :internet hi5:- 28 replies
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Spouse unwilling to challenge some of her beliefs
J. D. Stembal replied to Mike C.'s topic in Self Knowledge
There is no appealing to reason with women or religion. Women think with the eggs until somewhere near menopause. The pre-menopausal freakout is women realizing that they have to start being nice if they want other people, especially men, to be around them. This is why conversations with older women are so very pleasant, almost to a fault. Seriously, talk to a bunch of greyhairs. They will all be very sweet to you, at least to your face, because you are giving them the attention that they miss. Then, attempt to speak with any woman in her early or mid-twenties. If she looks up from her phone at you for more than a moment, she'll probably lay on her back for you. Otherwise, she has no time for you. Religion was the last disagreement that my ex and I had before I told her that I would have to be crazy to knock her up. There were many others before this, though, so the relationship was doomed from the start. You will be better off without the craziness in your life. It hurts now, but with a couple of years of retrospect, you will be much happier! P. S.: Do not, under any circumstance, have intercourse with your wife from this point. This is the time frame in which OOPSIE! babies happen.- 25 replies
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No, that's incorrect. Check your definitions. Thanks to the Mandrake Mechanism of Fractional Reserve Banking there is much, much more debt in the world than valued assets. See The Creature from Jeckyll Island or any of Mike Maloney's The Hidden Secrets of Money videos. https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=the+hidden+secrets+of+money
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Why So Few Women Anarchists?
J. D. Stembal replied to brucethecollie's topic in Men's Issues, Feminism and Gender
The State serves hypergamous behavior and the interests of women much like marriage and religion did before it. It is a myth that women need resources to survive while they are pregnant. Pregnant women can weight lift, so they can preform other tasks. They can also perform basic tasks while a baby is nursing or sleeping against her skin. The claim that pregnancy, child birth and rearing are largely debilitating, much like a disease or illness, is flat incorrect. Back during the Dawn of Man, before we had agriculture or an organized society, it was a female free-for-all to see who could have the most children since child mortality was dismally high. However, since the advent of oral birth control - which men STILL do not have - women have enjoyed the pinnacle of female prosperity. Women have children precisely when they want them, and can extract resources from men through the guns of the State. Men and society cater to every whim of women, yet women bitch about how unfair it is to be a woman? Anarchy, philosophy, and voluntarism are a reaction to the rampant misandry and feminist nonsense in the world. The modern state is essentially organized feminism and male disposability. The reason these forums (and anarchy in general) are so unpopular with women is because we know the about the schemes women are up to and we are seeking to end it peacefully without resorting to their dastardly tactics of violence. However, women know that Briffault's Law works. If women can collectively shift their ire to political anarchists, and man-shame us to death when our movement gets big enough. We will become the new demonized and attacked supremacist rape group, so much so that no woman will want to associate with us. Being an anarchist will likely bring about gene death for its followers, or at least the majority of them. -
What of it? Are you saying that just because his message is singularly opposed to feminism, that it is not valid? This is the same "tribalism" strawman bullshit that WasachMan is arguing in the thread. Anyone could use that same argument against Stefan Molyneux and FreedomainRadio and appear to be correct. In fact, his feminist and white knight detractors do it all the time when they level the criticism of "misogynist" at him. It's also an argument from consequence: "This will piss off the eggs, so therefore, we should shame it." But don't let me put words in your mouth. Tell us how you really feel. Let your eggs speak to us! Moderators: where did my post from 7:11 AM Mountain go?
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I appreciate the encouragement, Kurtis! I have a lot of doubts about what I'm doing, but I know that it's my abusive past attempting to pull me back into the Matrix. I needed to hear this right now. I tell myself that my mission is going to be difficult, yet worthwhile, every single day. You have my sincere thanks!
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Banana, again, go back and watch the video Number Six linked in his hidden post. (Here it is again, unhidden by forum moderation.) Having more successful and seamless conversations with women makes it easier to enact positive changes for men. The end goal does not have to be pussy or putting another notch in the bedpost. For instance, I am celibate because I was raped in my last relationship, back before I went sober. I'm not yet ready to put myself in the incredibly compromising position of heterosexual sex. (The details you provide from Day Bang sound like exactly what I want to achieve with women. I'll let you know how it works out. I should have the book by Monday.) Since women control all aspects of the family unit (see Briffault's Law), they are the causal agents behind the genital mutilations of over 3000 children ever day in my country. As I have stated in the OP, this is an important issue to me, as is rape and gender inequity. How can we wake up the world to voluntarism without successfully reaching women? You're certainly not going to reach out to them by hanging out on philosophy forums. Get in a gym, work on yourself and work on your game. Women will be dying to speak with you, believe me! On Sunday, I had a 15 minute conversation with a total stranger - a woman of about 22 - and I physically had to extricate myself from the interaction by making an excuse to leave. Was I trying to fuck her? No. Did I want to? Maybe a little bit. Was I manipulating her eggs with my abs? No, I had my shirt on at the time. Keep on negging me, guys. I am quite enjoying it and hoping for at least a -20!
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Did you guys watch any of the linked videos that I or others have posted? It's like you've got your head buried in the sand. Roosh V. is getting railroaded by feminists because he is critical of women (and men) and works to help men achieve their desires. I see him as a hero, and I strive to me more like him every day. I cannot wait to read his books. What are you doing to further the causes that are important to men? You come and troll my posts instead because pick-up artistry is obviously a trigger for you. Thank you for the strawman, and excellent non-answer to my question, WasatchMan. I will be blocking you immediately.
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Promoting Voluntarism Through Genital Integrity
J. D. Stembal replied to J. D. Stembal's topic in Peaceful Parenting
I apologize for missing your question, Mellomama. It is important for me to speak out about my experience living with the emotional and physical scars of genital mutilation. So few men are speaking out about it, but 60% of male babies are still being mutilated, over 3000 children every day in America. Stefan has a lot of valuable input about peaceful parenting, but as an intact man, he does not have the same insight that I have. I looked around the internet and saw several popular videos where women object to the butchering of genitals. See the feminist, Laci Green, who has several sex positive videos about the intact penis. However, I did not see any mutilated men talking about their experiences. That's the niche that I'm trying to fill, and I want to have a honest conversation with men and women about how to best end the daily suffering of males. Speaking frankly, I was very disappointed by the lack of responses to this thread in a community that supposedly espouses peaceful parenting and awareness of men's issues. I find it very telling that in a philosophy community forum with 95% male membership, the only feedback I received was from a woman, not that I don't appreciate your feedback, Mello. Perhaps philosophic men aren't ready to attack men's issues directly by lending their voice to be heard and recognized. This was the real reason behind me disappearing from the boards for a month.- 28 replies
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Could you clarify your position on the matter? I don't understand your objection of tribalism, what it means, or why it is objectionable. My position is that I am standing up for a man's right to speak his mind and be heard. I've mentioned in several threads how appalling I find the practice of circumcision, in particular, and not many on this forum have offered their thoughts or feedback. It's as if the mere act of a man speaking out offends people, even on a forum dedicated to voluntarism, peaceful parenting and philosophy. See this thread as an illustration: https://board.freedomainradio.com/topic/44540-promoting-voluntarism-through-genital-integrity/?hl=%2Bgenital+%2Bintegrity This Roosh V. feminist uproar is just another example of how much ignorance there is surrounding men's issues.