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The last conversation was mostly about connecting the body with the mind. (which was great) Elliott Hulles talks about many other subjects. I would like to hear a conversation on the "heroes journey", and self-improvement in general. Topics like motivation, commitment...etc I know stef and elliott have different approaches on those subjects but i would like to hear a conversation on those topics. I like how the last conversation was an actually conversation instead of an interview. thumbs up! I just thought i would put this out there.

I dont understand your question can you please explain what tools you are taking about . What i was wondering is that if you are in an isolation chamber its just you alone with your thoughts. Your body is very conferrable and isn't in the way . So maybe i thought it could help with self knowledge since its a probably the most quiet places that you could go to... Its ok i don't know anything about this subject either, it just sounds interesting, i might try it some time. Unless there is some really bad side effect. Also, i remember people in my philosophy class long time ago where scared to go into one of these. Actually allot of people find it scary to be alone

Where did you hear this ? I don't understand why this would do this. Can you explain ? I think you still have sensations but you have good sensations. Because if we had no sensations at all that would mean we are dead. So in a sense the name is miss leading. For example you still feel temperature but its just very pleasant, not cold or hot. You still hear but its just quiet. You can still feel your skin and move around if you want. does that make sense ?

Thanks for taking the time to read your support really helps. I do have those symptoms, but the worst of them all is panic attacks. I would also be sick all the time, i think because my immune system would shut down. Thanks for sharing the story of you standing up to your boss, i worked in retail and i know how that goes. Thanks for reading, you have allot of question ill try to answer them all as best as i can. Well as a kid, my mother always use to worry about others feeling almost obesely. Except mine, she was happy if i was feed and had cloths. But never worried about my feelings, i was made to believe that i should be afraid of other people and never interact with them ....etc I felt like Stef was not helpful in the call. Maybe it could be because i was nervous and couldn't really guide the call, so stefan went into tangents. But i felt like he was focused on culture and poverty more than my feelings, he didnt ask as many questions as i thought he would. And he said the solution is anger. In the moment when he said that I don't feel anger, i instantly believed him. Because i trust him, he earn my trust. But i think he was wrong because i had felt anger, i was doing allot of journaling and talking with people. And i realized iam angry and i have felt anger, because i have plans to move out, i have stopped talking to my mother for over a year. But since stef is such commanding presense i instantly believed him and it took me a while to realize he was wrong. He is correct in a sense because anger is part of the solution, it triggers you into action. (like the people in the chat told me that day. ) But its not the only thing you need. I felt like self talk and getting in touch with my emotions helped more than feeling anger. Anger is the start but i don't think its all we have to do. You said why do i say calm down. I say calm down in a relaxing voice not in a controlling parent kind of a way. But i also say if you can't calm down thats ok, I don't really force myself to do anything. Allot of the time i still feel nervous while self taking. I think the key thing is to re-parent your self , because i have these crazy abusive parents in my head.

Im curious to know because it sounds like a cool concept. Especially since I'm really into self knowledge and or self-exploration. I heard joe rogen talking about it, but he is into drugs so i don't know if i could really count on his recommendation. Especially since its about 40-80 dollars an hour in that thing.

I started noticing improvement. I usually have social anxiety in random social interactions. I started doing some self talk. Not just any self talk, but i started to empathize with myself and be the parent that i never had. I tell myself everything is ok, don't worry..."Calm down there is nothing to fear, but if you can't its oky". I think this helped me get in touch with my emotions. Recently i had this episode where i felt anxious and i did some self talk. I got through it and a few minutes after i felt like crying so i had to leave. (i was in public) I got home and all the tears started coming out and i cried, luckily no one was home. So i cried without shame or fear out in the open. I didn't cover my face, i just let it come out. After that day i have felt much less anxious when i interact with people. My fear diminished allot. I think i made a big step. Anyways i just thought i would share.

Is intelligence the only quality you are looking for in a female ? There are different kinds of intelligence, like emotional intelligence, interpersonal intelligence, Intrapersonal intelligence, spatial intelligence... etc ( like 5 more) So when you say you think you like her because of her intelligence I'm wondering what you mean by that. ---------- Anyways, i have anxiety problems but i still have had many girlfriends and this is what i do. Well first i would recommend the book How to win friends and influence people. But the basic theory behind that book is that to get people to like you and to make people do what you want there are a few things you should know first. Realize that people are not self-less so think what can i do for them. Second learn to have conversations. (talk about what they want, ask genuine questions) When you talk to a girl don't talk about what you want to talk about like philosophy or whatever.... talk about what she wants to talk about ,,, step into her world, remember this isn't about you its about her. Once you do that she will at least like you as a friend because i can almost guarantee she never has talk to someone who treats her like ^^^ what i wrote. Ideally the conversation should be reciprocal like you ask her question about what she likes and she then in turn ask you question... But what usually ends up happening is people rarely talk to people who are genuinely interested in them that they just ... Blahh, pour everything out and never ask you question back but they usually don't notice. And end up liking you allot

Ok so I have programed in python and c++. I have basic knowledge on object oriented programing , and data structures. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Heres my question: Im willing to put in the time in learning objective C, i have already bought a book. But I contemplating taking a semester of school to make an actual game. Im scared to take the step. I have a ruff sketch of the game, i don't really care that it has great graphics, I'm more worried about the functionality. Well the child in me wants this and its kicking and screaming. I have been neglecting the child in me for so long. Its just something I've been thinking about. I have been having trouble concentrating in school and i think its because of this. I need some action.

Thanks again I hope it does help people Thanks for the support tony !

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Who would be interested in such a group? The point of the group would be to support each other and share advice . Share stories. In general a support group Specifically concentrated on social anxiety Shyness.. Fear .. Etc

Great idea I'll try to think of a joke

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Thanks for taking the time to post : ) I really appreciate the feedback Thanks for taking the time to watch : ) I appreciate the feedback I will plan out my videos next time, i also noticed that when i re washed it . Anyways thanks for watching, your support is appreciated : )

Yes, i think there are definitely people who don't communicate the idea correctly but i came across allot of people who claim to live by that philosophy. Not caring what others think. To make friends you have to care what others think, also to influence people. So i don't think its really healthy to live by that. Thanks for taking the time to post.

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Yes i do react angry and i feel pain, lol. I also think that when someone is nervous its hard to express emotion Thanks for taking the time to listen and reading my post. Yes you are exactly correct about "I think everyone has been angry before. Right? But, how often are we certain of the origin of that anger? And..." If you are not allowed to express anger or you have no one to listen to your anger how are you suppose to be good at expressing anger. Its like if your not allowed to sing and no one wants to listen to you sing, how are you suppose to be good at singing. Thanks again : )

I think you are correct, thanks for listening and taking the time to write. The only thing that i want to say is that i couldn't express my emotions through my voice. I have trouble with that but i genuinely have felt anger before. Once i started reflecting and journaling i realized i have felt angry in the past

I called in a while back, I was the first caller. Link: I haven't been able to listen to it yet because I don't have internet service at the moment. Im typing this from the internet at my school. It also feels painful to listen to it again, I find it hard to lisen to myself. Anyways I felt like I didn't explain myself clearly in the call (i froze). I also would have wanted stef to explain what he ment at the end when he said you need to feel angry or have anger. I think i understand what he ment by that thanks to the people in the chat. They said anger propels one into action. (in order to get out of a bad situation ) At the moment i was confused because i started doubting myself i thought i had felt anger. Stef didnt really ask me if i have felt anger. The day of the call i cried all day. The few days after i was talking to my sister about the call, we dicused the anger thing. I told her that i thought i had felt anger already. This is why i don't talk to my mother anymore i gave up on her . I also have a plan to move out. I have been angry for a few years already. After crying all day i have felt better. I have less fear of interacting with people and it seems to be fading away. (very slowly) In the past I had trouble asking people for help but now i think im getting better at it. I realized how this ruled my life. I closed many doors.... friendships, jobs, etc... Anyways i would like some feedback and tell me what you thought. ---------------------------- Sorry for the spelling errors i did some spell checking after the fact, I'm sure there are more. ---------------------------

Ill tell you something that helped me . You can't have a discussion with someone who doesn't believe in logic. If someone thinks the world is illogical you can't have a logical conversation with them . Everything you say won't make sense to them , and everything they say won't make sense to you. Its like trying to speak with someone who speaks another language. (actually worst) Basically is you have different epistemological believes there is no reason to debate or discus anything. EX: if he thinks the world can be understood through faith and you through logic, reason and evidence.

Did you see my comment ? I know these people are savages!

Yes , my point was to show that the media is actually talking about spanking. Usually when that happens, there is some traction. I think this is an older post. I think the numbers are actually greater than what they posted.

I was falling asleep yesterday and heard the main stream talking about spanking. I could tune in a watch it because I had a job interview and school. But i heard that they said visit the website for more. Spanking may increase mental disorder ! here is an article : http://www.myfoxla.com/story/23750377/study-shows-spanking-children-breeds-agression here is a video link: http://www.myfoxla.com/video?clipId=7462410&autostart=true

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