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Hi, ehm... @TheGoatLord No, I haven't used it. Until you brought it up I didn't even know it existed. However, after a few searches (about page, whois, 'fiecebook' page... etc) it's still unclear: ° Who is/are running the site? ° What is their track record? ° How and what do they gain from doing it? ° Ultimately, why they wouldn't just state all of the above mentioned in detail, easily accessible? Barnsley ps. On a second note, I am (even) less convinced of it's merits (, if that's possible) after having checked out their intro, alongside with this reddit discussion by 'James Damore' ("Could Kialo, a new platform purposefully made for Thoughtful Debate, be...")

Big, fat, massive thumbs up! I for one will definitely check out your fruits of labour. (also, focusing on the goal not the 'flaws' if any) More (computing) power to you! Barnsley

Thanks, but I was rather interested in your own words. (nevertheless, went and checked it out)

Hi @A4E Is it possible, do you think that some of those 'pills' were placebo that you swallowed? I mean, learning is a process and all... ie. What do you think of the mirror on the moon?

Hi @Elizbaeth Nice gesture, really. I like when people take responsibility (though, don't beat yourself up too much... if you asked me.) Barnsley p. s. I was never arguing for it being moral/immoral anyway, or addressing the op(original poster) directly.

Hi @wyattstorch Yes, true. A good expansion on one of the aspect of many boundaries/limiting factors. Thanks!

Hi @gavstone21 That's quite a click-baity title if you ask me. But that's ok. If you actually wanted to be pro-active about making things better in your current situation, there's actually quite a lot you could do. Unless of course if you hoped others would become your saviours. Even prisoners have a certain amount of freedom they are able to exercise, to continue your allegory. What I'm saying with this (at the same time as well another important point) is to perhaps being mindful of the things you give your attention would certainly help 'seeing' more readily available options, better utilising the circumstances. How about you checking out a small snippet Jordan B Peterson has said in his latest Q&A at around 1 hour 12 minute mark? The video's titled : New Year's Q and A Have a good one, Barnsley

47. Peter Gabriel - Big time 48. Radiohead - Just

Hi thinkers and alike, It's been always on my mind, I think it's a very important piece of knowledge. Enjoy reading about it (infogalactic, better than 'tricky-pedia') Highlights (some are paraphrasing, others are quotes) : ° No humans or computers can run two tasks parallel, using the same pool of resources but somehow doubling it, while also reaching equal maximum efficiencies (compared to a singular task). ° In the US, it is estimated that $650billion is wasted as a result of multitasking. ° [...] Conversely, a Swedish study found that men actually outperformed women at handling multiple tasks simultaneously, with the performance gap being correlated to the female menstrual cycle. [...] ° People have a limited ability to retain information, which worsens when the amount of information increases. ... many more... Barnsley

45. John Mclaughlin & Zakir Hussain - Lotus feet ( from the album: Remember Skakti; The Way of Beauty) 46. Yonderboi - Intro (Soundsculptors) ft. Ken Nordine

{meanwhile} Another great thing has occurred to me the other day, and it's about 'doing inventory'. (Seeing who you are for what you are...not what you think you were) = As to me, that's exactly what a foundation IS when looking into self-knowledge. There's a great amount of different sites and resources claiming to give insight on your 5 big personality traits. As someone who's been fairly obsessed with such topics, allow me to give a friendly advice and recommend; just go straightforward to Understand myself by Jordan B Peterson. I'm in no way affiliated or benefit from if you do take it, other than a slight boost to my pride(did something good again) and a small blip of empathetic joy for your success(you'll learn stuff that is cornerstone-brevity important, I gua-ran-tee that!). You'll learn about your levels of & at the same time be able to compare to others, see what's good/bad about it and why(huge pool, scientifically established... I mean by real scientists. NOT 'Colgate 9/10 dentists..' joke.) & also everything is in plain English, relatable connections explained regarding: Agreeableness: Compassion and Politeness Conscientiousness: Industriousness and Orderliness Extraversion: Enthusiasm and Assertiveness Neuroticism: Withdrawal and Volatility Openness to Experience: Openness and Intellect Given also, that currently you have less people in your support groups, mainly work on your own, budgetwise prefer the modest... I personally (who has taken it and my mind is still 'click', 'click'.. keeps clicking by the sheer connections that get revealed continously ) think you would immensely benefit getting simple but powerful personalised answers. Seriously, you won't find anything better currently.

43. Vangelis - Blush Response 44. Yoko Kanno - Surf

Amen to that. or Welcome in the reality, friend.

42. Gabriel Fauré - (Kiri Te Kanawa;) "Après un rêve" 42 John Charles - Saturn rising

-> Not studying (out) vs studying, usually at a younger age with help from parents / government / both but most importantly within the mechanics of academic life (in). I was looking for Jordan B. Peterson's way of characterisation but for the life of me I couldn't find it... if anyone can, I'd appreciate that. -> That's great, MORE POWER TO YOU. -> In my opinion, what had worked for me is this. Ffff-uck it! Just keep going. It's all-right, seriously. If I'm depressed, or low energy all that means that I will go slower, continue inching like a snail. I empathise with my state and needs, so when I have beaten my self up I'll first tend my wounds and make crutches to be able to limp forward. Forward, forward, forward, fuck the speed or the distance I make. It's my current best I can do. So I'm doing it. The whole point is movement, not the speed. Sure, I'll eventually recover but certainly I can watch the right videos, make phone calls, review my progress, clean up stuff, prepare a delicious meal... etc. -> No. That's imho is a false conclusion. Depression is a result. It stems from a source, IT'S WHAT IS BEFORE that is the culprit. Now, not helping yourself to get better is different. That, pal IS self-sabotage. (if you don't help yourself... I can't tell. Are you?) ->before I responded, I would like to ask you to give a definition of what's envy(1) and who do you envy and why(2). I can't otherwise respond with much connectivity unless... (me thinks) Also : How's the convo for you?

Hi @Jot /An observation. I think you are very good at speaking your mind when you choose to./ (overall) Do you think I am assessing correctly that my comments were rather on the inconvenient side for you? I'll try to clarify things further... No. I thought it was clear that I do not try to cast "the blame" on anyone else. That is why I approached this issue as "what am I..." I'm not saying I'm right. I draw my conclusions from... (being in a place you don't want to but can't move) (gravity is pulling, repetitive you aren't stopping it, just happens) I am not sure I understood your point here, would you mind decrypting this? Surely, sorry for not being concise. When you wrote.. IF it wasn't what you wanted (partly my later coercion question), and you previously you'd been mainly motivated by... Isn't it fair to assume (from what you'd shared) that whatever you were going through during those times you wished to see behind your back... as in 'trying to escape from'? The next bit, I don't think you got what I meant, probably because I was too broad here, again... dunno. Lemme try. <A> When I went for my laptop, I chose it in accordance with my budget and needs. The best laptop for me in the shop would have been much better but obviously I couldn't afford it. The cheapest laptop that was still somewhat applicable would have meant that I would have saved money but it wasn't going to be as good as I could 'afford',hence my final decision on maximising opportunity cost/budget in my investment. (3 months later burglars broke in and 'waz a goner with the wind', Dammit crack addicts!, bad parenting!...nor here nor there.) So I had assumed that you made the same decision when choosing "the best", meaning you opted for what you sincerely thought was the maximum benefit from the 'budget' you were working with. I don't think you had self-sabotaged or willfully messed things up by choosing something you didn't want AT THE TIME. <B> When we avoid, we are fully seeing the obstacle. You don't avoid what you don't know that it exist. Right?! Maybe I'm wrong here? If we see an obstacle, don't want to deal with it but still want to experience having solved it... we try circumventing, if we don't think we can cope with it. Do we not?! Again, maybe you work differently. I'm happy to be corrected. Neither. As I said, it was a way for me to avoid the whole stress of that time. With the rhetorical mention, I was pointing at my previous assessment of 'running away from' assumption, because "avoid the whole stress" do sound to me like that. (again) I could have been wrong. No, because that would be fallacious reasoning. Did I imply that I would believe this? Good for you. No, you technically haven't implied my examples conclusion, not at all. I was going for the 'although you might not be feeling great at the place you brought yourself, it doesn't mean it isn't really good for you'. Looking back on the flow, I don't think I had communicated that very efficiently. I wasn't aiming to discuss them here, but sure, why not?... regarding the 'get you started questions' .. next post...

Hi @Marshall B Ah, ok. No, I don't think so. Good question, I can't answer that. Yes, we are certainly part of his audience. Exactly? I am not sure if anyone can answer that, I'm afraid. It's just an assumption but perhaps everyone 'who's feather got ruffled while reading the article'.

Hi @Jack_Rainbow I saw your double copy&paste posts, full response, here. Have a good one, Barnsley

Hi @Jack_Rainbow I saw your double, copy&paste posts though I am only going to respond to one in full and it's here, below. Did you know (?), Stefan M. has tons of podcasts specifically about (see below) neatly listed(available since almost a decade ago) under the tabs "Origins of War in Child Abuse" and "Peaceful Parenting" (link to the site) Additionally, he's also read the book called Origins of War in Child Abuse by Lloyd Demause and it's downloadable in mp3 (amongst, yet another plethora of fantastic materials from him). (link to the audio book and those additional resources) Barnsley Ps. Anyone else who first heard... What's "communards" - find it here.

40. FanuSamurai - Galician girl 41. Edward Shearmur - Bluebird

Hi thinkers and alike, Not necessarily a parenting book, however immensely useful for seeing dynamics we and others participate in, encourage. Eric Berne - Games People Play (link to the author's site) This is what Kurt Vonegut Jr. said about it in the famous 1965 Life Magazine review of Games People Play: “An important book . . . a brilliant, amusing, and clear catalogue of the psychological theatricals that human beings play over and over again. The good Doctor has provided story lines that hacks will not exhaust in the next 10,000 years” Barnsley

Hi @Jot Have you tried my suggestion? Have you experienced the same annoyance since we last spoke? Barnsley

Hi @Jot I hope to help you clarifying things. Well-intended, straightforward style. You said.. Would it be fair to say that it is a passive, 'having been made to do so' type of attitude you see yourself in the present? While wanting to break free in the past.. You assessed, narrated your past actions as if you were running away from something? ... aaaand, if the previous two are part of a trend.. By choosing the current scenario (seemed the best at the time, as the path with the least resistance) you've been trying to circumvent using your unique set of abilities for your developing towards your true potential, standing up for what you really want and folding under pressure according to your own standards? (notice, I'm not blaming here. I try to make you realise what expectations you had/have.) Think of this. People respond to incentives, their actions are their own. You're following, right?! No living creature exists to self-sabotage or lives for the sake of unhappiness, failure. Sure, there are some in crises who act out desperation, but... We do things because we choose them according to what we think it is going to be the most benefit to us. If you don't see yourself as one who made those decisions, you also loose the agency it required, the motivation and reasoning behind. You need those in order to assess and to make better decisions. Fuck mistakes. Happens all the time. What matters if you repeat them. a., Were you coerced to go to Uni, or it was you who thought that's what you should be doing? And it doesn't matter if others were pushing but you had the final word, went for it, signed the papers, showed up to the test... etc. (sorry for the rhetorical) b., Again, think of this. Is it true to claim there's no cure for an illness because the patient took the most commonly available medicine? Here's some questions to get you started : 1. Is it possible that there are a great many advantages in your current life that when compared to someone being 'out of a bubble' you are overlooking? 2. Could it be that you are wasteful with your opportunities and that makes you feel that you are under performing? 3. Have you assessed your near-future and mid-long / long-term goals in order to properly align your heading? 4. Are there changes you desire to enact but due to self-sabotage(not gathering enough info, actively testing out theories) there's an underlying distaste about your own conduct? 5. Have you investigated what those individuals had to invest into their success first, that you envy? Who do you envy? Why? If you were really trying to get the best answers possible, I recommend doing Jordan B. Peterson's self authoring suite. - it's dirt cheap, immensely helpful - all that you discover you'll get to keep and not just utilise immediately but get to incorporate into your conscious development going forward. Take action, either way. Stay in motion, dispell the mental fog, pal! Barnsley

Hi @Marshall B The article you're referring to can be found here. I wouldn't call myself a Mike Cernovich fan, because what I had seen him doing consistently is delivering good arguments. Some of which are not particularly my taste but since those arguments stand on their own, I tend to keep listening on and have a respect for his material. Like you said, I also am OK with him doing promotion... the man's got a brand and he's a very successful businessman, more power to him. Plus, I like courageous and hardworking individuals. To me, the article mentioned is within what he's about, and appears to me as general 'housekeeping' as in 'why people aren't talking about this more?'. He certainly understands how to draw attention and has the supporting track record to backup his claims regarding people's optics on social media...(me thinks). Plus it's so nice to see, when he tells you upfront what he's about to say and just gonna hammer it regardless the opposition it might create. (which I think is part of his efforts in raising awareness, only natural) I wasn't sure why would you see his article as.. Could it be that you forgot to realise that he's speaking to his audience / leveling with his audience while at the same time trolling a bit? (The man has style)... or for a completely different reason? Do tell. Barnsley

Gotcha! And Thanks.